Inquiring as to the right time to make a move...

[theycallmeasage]

There's this girl I met who I've hung out with a few times. I'm a deep philosopher type, and she is the deepest thinker I've met so far, and understands every abstract concept I throw at her as well as adding her own viewpoints on them. There so far hasn't been any topic that's been too out there or taboo to discuss. Last week after we hung out and I dropped her back at her home, I told her that I like her. She told me that she likes me too, but her ex-boyfriend is pulling a lot of maneuvers to make her life miserable such as posting personal info about her online, things like that, and she wants to wait a couple weeks before getting into a relationship. I know the common response is "that's her nice way of saying she's not interested in you", but I'm very good at reading people and she seems to be showing mainly signs of interest in me. She's very shy, but there's small things such as when we're cuddling she'll back into me or wrap her fingers around my arms and hold them closer. When we're together she's never in a rush to get home or gives off any vibes of wanting to leave early, if anything it seems to be the opposite. She'll text me randomly too; when we went to the city last weekend she texted me afterwards saying she had a great time. Now the predicament lies in what I should do. I don't know when I should make a move or what kind of move I should make. We're gonna see each other wednesday, should I tell her I like her again or is it too soon? Or should I grow a pair and just kiss her without saying anything? Is this week too soon or do I risk waiting too long? I have for the most part figured out exactly how people work except for in relationships, so sadly I have to ask.

[andy-hughes]

It's very simple. When you think the time is right to kiss her - which should be as you are leaving, stand about a foot away and look into her eyes. Smile, and incline your head slowly towards hers. She will either respond and move as though ready to be kissed, in which case you kiss her gently and slip your arms around her. Let her dictate how passionate the kiss is, and respond accordingly.

If she doesn't want to be kissed, she will incline her head away, in which case you gently kiss her on the cheek, and say goodnight. You will know from her body language if she is comfortable with this next time you meet - if so, make it a little ritual, if not, then do nothing. If in the future she wants to move things on a stage, she will give you the signals that it's OK to kiss her - mainly by looking like she'd like you to!

Either way - you either know she is interested, and if not, you both emerge with your dignity - and more importantly your friendship - intact.