I slept with a guy on our first date! Now he seems distant..

[xxconfused2010xx]

We have only really known each other a month but the instant we met online he lived near, attractive it was like we was made for each other..

he instantly give me his number and got on so well..

this weekend i met him when i was out.. we had a lot of fun chilled had a laugh, I got a little too drunk and went back to his.. we ended up sleeping with one another but whilst he was there he wouldn't stop telling me how beautiful i was and how amazing i was, we both as i was leaving agreed it was pretty soon but it didnt matter and that we would go on a date (which is supposed to be tomorrow) and get to know each other more..

so i left.. and we both texted each other saying how amazing i was and i was better than he thought.. and kept calling me sexy and mwah ing in texts.. he text me yesterday before he left for work but now (on his day off) i have heard nothing) i was the one who left the ball in his court last night.. explaining he was off so didnt want to disturb him.. and to text me when he can..

so i dont know how a day after now he hasnt been in touch? and i dont wanna make the first move to make another convo..? the date is supposed to be tomorrow? do i just text him telling him i can make it and if he still wants to go? or do i just wait to see if he contacts me?

i just hate how even after he had slept with me he was still chatty now two days later.. nothing? am i over reacting?

[ummmm]

And the moral of the story is????

[Mcvj]

From the way that you've described the situation, I would say that he;s gone off you since he's 'had' you, however that could just be the way that you're describing it. There could be a perfectly reasonable explanation.

I would send him a perfectly frank text asking whether he still wants to go out with you tomorrow night. You don't needto play any more games. If he says no then he's a shallow idiot and you don't need someone like that in your life!

If he says yes and wonders why you've asked, then there will be a reasonable explanation and you can move on with the relationship.

Good luck! The point is there's no point wondering about it

[Redrum]

sorry to burst your bubble but the chase is up he has had you and now has come to his senses that he wants to get back with his ex. Which is me.

[dothawkes31]

Bet he's already in a relationship and has had to see the other one today

[Redrum]

slainly and pimply you have just been used. End of. . . He is always doing this. . But he is a cad but i love him. Im sorry he did this to you.

[craft1948]

Do you write for Mills & Boon.............

[Postdog]

Those may be fair answers but....

Many years ago I fancied someone in a social group I belonged to. I mean really fancied - I'd gone through a messy break up, and she was the only woman who actually put a smile down below, if you get me.

One night at a party I got the chance to chat to her, and something happened, cos 3 hours later we were at it like rabbits. Neither of us were like that usually, and I actually felt very awkward after that. Things WERE awkward because we'd done the main course before the starter, and it was uncomfortable working backwards.

you might be worrying for nothing.

[xxconfused2010xx]

ok cheers for the SENSIBLE answers..

and in regards to you redrum i find it highly funny thaqt you laugh at things like this when i am not. Funny too see all your relationship issues in the past year and you looking for serious answers.

i have not done this for people to take the mic. I have done it for sensible and respectful answers. Grow up.

P.s the girl with the smell in the office. Take note have a wash.

[ojread2]

do you watch Jezza? Your fella was on there this morning

Sorry to say but you offered it a plate and he took it - have a little more respect for yourself and the next one might stick around

[xxconfused2010xx]

i am not bothered about that issue. I was drunk thinks happen. The MORAL of the story is a day after he was fine and told me i was amazing still normal.. its only today i have heard nothing.. and i was the last one to text so i dont wanna give in and bug him

date is tomorrow... if i still havent heard anything do i text him?

[ummmm]

Yes...text him something like...are we still on for today/tonight.

You've had sex with the man. Will it hurt less if he doesn't return the text. At least you'll know for sure then.

[sara3]

if he's that type, you couldn't have waited 6 months before sleeping with him and he still may have dumped you the next day. truth is, you just don't know. text him but hang on to your self-respect, no begging, no crying, no hurling abuse.

and best of luck :o)

[Bapla]

`i dont wanna make the first move to make another convo.`

why ever Not!
,text him instead he wont see your nervousness or fill your pain, enquire about the date if he doesn't reply,move on and put it down to experience and don't make the same mistake
good luck i hope he replies :)

[Androcles]

There's probably a post on another site:

" I met this really good looking girl. I gave her my number and we got together over the weekend and had some fun. She got really drunk and we ended up having sex. She really was very sexy. We have had a lot of texts back and forward, and I made another date to see her.

But now I am feeling quite guilty. My partner was away visiting family but suspects that something went on. Now this girl keeps texting me about the date and I'm terrified my partner will find out - what should I do?"

[Teleph0ne]

don't get drunk and skrew around behind your partners back would be a good start, if you do then dont give them your number!!!

[Slapshot]

confused....firstly ignore the wummers and p!sstakers. Secondly, did you have a good night out despite your regret? thirdly, how do you known this guy isn't full of regret as well and is scared to text you??

Text him, find out what's he's about. If it's all fallen flat then put it down to experience

[Redrum]

ouch. Can you not take a bit of humour i was only trying to lighten the situation no need for such a reaction jees i did not have a personal attack at you. It's true men do this. Get over it.

[Redrum]

why do people play these games just be straight. . Text him. If you get no reply which you wont leave it at that and obviously a knob.

[xxconfused2010xx]

ermm yeah i get you i am female. i just dont like idiotic responses when im stressed out. arghhh

anyway he text me! last night.. no apology for the late reply.. continued to go on about how amazing i was and wanted me again.. i couldnt make the date due to the snow.. he made a sad face and told me he has not days off now fror a while. again put a sad face.. i told him not to worry about it and too luck forward to his holiday this month..

so some of you were wrong.. he does show interest.. but not enough... so im not gunna bother.. if he wants me he can text me right..