Too Soon

[strawberryblonde]

I met this man a few weeks ago and he has been constantly texting asking me out his texts were so frequent they were starting to get annoying. I have been out with him a few times and he is nice I went back to his the other night and we kissed and cuddled but nothing else, he was still texting and asked me out for tea yesterday as he was on nights last night I went back to his and things developed when I got home he texted a few times and now nothing. He kept telling me how much he had enjoyed himself and when he texted last night asked if he could take me out sat night as it is his 1st night off this week dont know y the texts have stopped .

Shellx

[Teleph0ne]

Ist only a day, perhaps he is busy

[Redrum]

did you sleep with him then. . Take advice from other post a little further down. Seems to be something in the air.

[strawberryblonde]

He texted asked how I was but didnt mention anything else said he had only just got up didnt get in from work till late cos of the weather this morning.

Shellx

[xxconfused2010xx]

the mind boggles babe.. read my question..

he prob was busy.. i was trippin about a guy and i slept with him his attitude has changed hes not as clingy and he only texts if i text him first..

so im f*cking him off..

good luck xx

[Bapla]

if his been working nights it could be his catching up on sleep,why dont you text him

[strawberryblonde]

Thanks for the answers he has now texted but does not seem as keen as he did before. I wont text him 1st though

Shellx

[ciaraciara]

Sometimes guys just want sex, and they see girls as conquests, like challenges, and I'm not saying that this guy just saw you as a challenge but all guys love a chase right? :) so now he's backing off maybe just to see if you're keen. I'd say don't be too eager, do the old elastic band theory and let him spring back to you once he's had his space:) Good luck x

[strawberryblonde]

He is texting now but not as much as he used to but still flirting in them. Will see what happens let him make the 1st moves x

[Old_Geezer]

No all guys do not love a chase. I always hated it. I think only the extrovert guys see it as a game which they don't care too much if they win or lose a round. The introverted types see 'wearing ones heart on ones sleeve' as more serious, a vulnerability that gives the girl the opportunity to make a fool of you, or to make a fool of yourself. So a favourable result is more important to them when they do take the risk.

This guy has expressed interest first already. Texting, saying he's free Saturday night. it's perfectly possible that if he's not texting so regularly now, it might be down to the impression given by a lack of response. Admissions like, "I wont text him 1st though", suggest that might be the case, although how one can text first when one's already received a text, boggles the mind.

How about giving the poor sap some encouragement, if you are serious, or telling him he's wasting his time if you are not? Stop playing games with him.

[strawberryblonde]

Thanks 4 the replies. Last night he was supposed to be taking me out but heard nothing from him all day to arrange anything at 7 some friends were going out and I said I would tag along ant 7.15 he texted asking where we were meeting so told him I had made other plans he went moody. As for saying show encouragement if you like someone how do you know obviously I liked him or would not have gone out with him but it was too early to know if anything serious could have happened. Surely the idea of having a date is to have fun not a full time relationship x

[Old_Geezer]

If you were now just interested in a single date you wouldn't getting so concerned and asking for advice here; since you've already had a date.

It sounds like communication is a problem between the pair of you. He thinks you two had already made arrangements and so it wasn't a big deal to call late to finalise them; then finds you are off with your mates and he is left high & dry. Where as you feel nothing was finalised, you've been lft in limbo, and if he hadn't bothered to get back to you be 7 then you were entitled to make other arrangements. You both need to ensure you understand each other, since you both have different expectations. Either that or else give it up as just not worth it.

[lil123]

Relationships are hard work .... I think back to the days I was single it was so much easier lol x