Anyone speak man?

[Eve]

Am going through a bit of an upheaval in my life at the moment and matters are being more confused by my feelings towards a guy I know. Thought I'd get some others' advice on the situation to try and work out where, if anywhere, I should go from here as I just have so much else going on I don't want any further complications if I can help it.

Ok...he is a newish member to my social group, met him just before Christmas but it was a while before I got chatting to him and realised how lovely he is and it's just grown from there, including now a serious physical attraction as well.

He is very much a gentleman and we initially started to get to know each other other coffee after work with other friends and other social stuff.

We then started meeting up just the two of us and have done a few times now, the latest being tonight and usually either coffee, something to eat, the cinema etc...

We text on a daily basis, every day for quite a while now and he says some lovely things and things which, to me, aren't things you would just say to a friend eg. that I'm beautiful inside and out, why am I single, he loves spending time with me...

[Eve]

Also, despite being a lot more advanced than me, coming to dance in the beginners classes at a local salsa dance class with me when, for the lesson price, he could go in the more advanced class with the others.

There are some serious buts though in that he is not long out of a long term relationship which he didn't end, I've heard he liked one of the other girls who comes out (she apparantly wasn't interested though) and he has recently been mentioning that he has people trying to set him up with other girls and has now got e.mail contact with one.

I love spending time with him and we have a lot of stuff coming up we are going to but I'm just getting more and more confused about the whole thing as it never seems to progress. No signs of him making any move and I just don't know how he feels...help!!!

[ummmm]

What about you making a move?

He wouldn't be spending time with you if he didn't like you.

[ELVIS68]

Shy

[society]

Follow your instincts.

Him mentioning other girls trying to get set-up with him and having email contact is probably a way to make you a bit jealous.

[Eve]

I'm scared of it going horribly wrong and losing a friend and making things awkward going out etc... maybe he is the same... he is coming to mine for dinner some time soon, just need to set a date, but i can't help wondering if it's such a good idea now.

I'm in that horrible stage when spending time with him can now end up in me feeling crap as I don't know if he likes me like that etc... rah!

[Eve]

I'm shy too :( not a great combination lol :)

[ummmm]

Has he been to your house before? Or you to his? Or are you meetings always in public?

[cherrychapstick]

like society says ....or to see your reactions before he asks maybe he thinks the same as you and is unsure about how you feel about him so go for it all that can happen is you are wrong or right 50/50 ,but at least you will know one way or the other good luck hope it works out the way you want it , night night everyone , sleep well xx

[society]

I would be hesitant about making the first move. If he likes you that much then surely he'd want to steal a kiss or a feel-up.

[Gromit]

It sounds like neither of you need to rush into Anthony, you have other stuff going and, and he only recently out of a relationship.

He obviously likes you or else he wouldn't spend time with you. He may be enjoying being 'single' again and the freedom to do and see who he wants.

The few months you have known each other is very brief really and the best thing would be to enjoy each others company while it lasts, and if something special develops, then that is a bonus. These things can seldom be forced.

[Eve]

Not been to mine yet though offered before now to help me put some Ikea stuff together but never got round to buying it.

He seems very keen on coming for a meal, mentions it quite often. A friend of mine reckons alcohol might help things along and he has mentioned going out and getting drunk a few times despite neither of us being big drinkers.

I hoped body language and chemistry might lead to something, maybe in the cinema like tonight but 3 cinema trips on and no, I was bugging me tonight so I ended up actually curling away and trying to focus on the film.

My instincts say good things but I'm too scared to make a move myself.

[Gromit]

It sounds like neither of you need to rush into Anything.

Damned predictive text.

[ELVIS68]

Cinema`s not the ideal place to get fresh

[society]

Do you guys even hold hands?

[ummmm]

It looks like you haven't been in the situation for him to make a move. Some people hate public displays of affection. Get him round for dinner asap....make sure there is enough wine..

If he doesn't make a move then you do it. If it doesn't go to plan you can blame it on the wine.

[ELVIS68]

Have a meal and a few drinks then suggest a game of twister

End of problem

[Eve]

I did wonder gromit :) True Elvis.

No hand holding in that way though we dance together all night at the salsa classes I've been to and tend to hug goodbye (and sometimes hello) but I've noticed only when we are alone.

I think that's a good plan ummm :) It suggested this evening but he is flying out for a few days early tomorrow so suggested we do something different tonight and meal another time.

[Eve]

Sorry as in I suggested it be tonight, he suggested another night due to early flight.