What should I do?

[Simply_Lea]

I started work the other day and I met this guy who works with me. He's really amazing and sweet. When I'd finished work I started walking home and he left work early and came to find me so he could give me a lift home. He also helps me out a lot in the kitchen (we work in a pub kitchen), because I've only just started. I haven't asked him to help me, I didn't ask for the lift, but he did it anyway.
I really like him, but he already has a girlfriend. I was really jelous when I found out because he is just amazing. She is really lucky to be with him and I really wouldn't want them to break up because of me or anything, but I am finding it so hard. I like him so much.
I don't know what to do.
Help?

[4getmenot]

He has a girlfriend stay away. try not to accept lifts. Keep work as work.

[rowanwitch]

He doesn't sound amazing and sweet to me,,, sounds like an opportunistic slimeball. He has a girlfriend and the golden rule with blokes who stray or women for that matter is
if they do it for you they will do it to you......Leave well alone..

[China Doll]

He doesn't sound available so I don't think you should do anything.

[society]

Are you asking for consent or approval from folks on here to go after this guy?

[ummmm]

Or Rowan....he might just be a nice person.

Anyway....stay away while he has a girlfriend.

[Garmard]

Sounds as if it will get complicated, someone will get hurt so you're best staying away.

[Androcles]

Before everybody condemns this guy, has he made a pass at you? If not, perhaps he's just a nice guy trying to help a new person to settle in to the job, with no hidden agendas?

[tamborine]

dont risk your job for a passing flirtation.....his gf is not lucky if he's chasing you.

[Davethedog]

Hi from the way you "speak" it seems you have been preety obvious about your feelings.

I have to say that sounds to me as being opportunistic and you are vulnerable.

Take the advice of the others on the board and keep it at workplace level and if you don't please watch out for yourself.

[askyourgran]

Back off he is with someone else. He may be sweet and kind, he may also be a slimeball who thinks nothing of sharing his favours around. Who says he's going to break with his girlfriend because of you!

[Davethedog]

I have to say that sounds to me as HE IS being opportunistic and you are vulnerable.

[D143237G]

Dear me Lea, from a lot of the replies posted, your question certainly tapped into the self righteous/ ball crunchers mother lode. How can others assume he is not amazing and sweet but a slimeball from the small amount you have written about him?

I think that when you say 'I really wouldn't want them to break up because of me or anything' what you really mean is that is exactly what you want to happen and you have got the hots for him. It is not help you want because you don't know what to do but reassurance to go ahead with your plan and to have him all to yourself.

If so go for it and don't beat yourself up about it. Lay it on a plate how you feel and what you want from him and see what happens. You might be pleasantly surprised.

[Sqad]

I am not sure what your problem is Simply.

You either start a relationship or you don't.

I tend to agree with vibes ("get in there")

He is looking for a bit of spare and you are that "bit of spare " at the moment.

Your choice....have you had sex with him yet?........my guess?........case you have.

[rowanwitch]

What's more to the point you might find yourself needing a new job, and it doesn't look good if you can't explain why you had to leave.

Just be very careful.... sounds like we are mostly being very hard but there are a lot of people out there who are not so nice (of either sex )

[cazzz1975]

if he takes you on as "his bit of spare" would that still make him an amazing guy?

once you are conquered, he will be looking elsewhere..great guy :)