how to stay strong when you spilt with someone...

[joko]

any tips?

i just want to call him...and i just know i shouldnt...one minute im strong then i start to weaken,,,

thanks

[joko]

its happening right now...and im crying so hard i cant breathe properly...im struggkling to stop myself calling him...

[4getmenot]

then delete his number. When I split with an ex I cut out a tombstone with his name on and stuck it on my desk at work lol. How long had you been together? Why did it end?

[redcrx]

go out for a walk and leave your phone at home.

[society]

Don't cry so loudly, I can hear you.

Are you a teenager?

[LoftyLottie]

Just to say I am sorry. You must feel so wretched. Was it his decision to split up, yours, or joint?

[4getmenot]

well at least you wont have to do treasure hunts for the ungrateful b@stard anymore. You always seemed to good for him.

[LoftyLottie]

Are you remembering the good times and forgetting the bad. It's so easy to that when things have gone wrong.

[joko]

im 38.

we've been together a year and a half...and we are just 2 completely different people...and so theres often conflict...we get on but hes moody, and pretty selfish and i just cant stand it anymore...i love him though, so its just hard...

[4getmenot]

so you dumped him?

[society]

If he wanted to be with you, he'd call you. Why are you wasting tears on someone who's probably not interested in you?

[mccfluff]

delete his number and texts and remember why you split up

(((((((((hugs))))))))

[ladybird49]

moody and selfish ? dont call him hel have you at his beck and call , better off without him if hes like you say , try and keep strong x

[joko]

thanks 4get...
its been a long time coming and yes, loftie, thats what i keep doing...and getting all soppy and wanting to call
i am the one that has instigated it...and when ive tried to explain the problem i have...he just doesnt get it...he thinks its all about the one minor incident that sparked the argument...so cant accept theres a problem
hes kind of controlling - or at least tries to be...i tell him to stop and warn him i will never ever change to suit him...but he doesnt seem to see that hes doing it...he just thinks his way is the correct way...its weird...

[joko]

society - go away please.

he has been calling me...ive been ignoring him

[LoftyLottie]

I think you have to grieve for the end of this relationship. You have lost someone you love. Losing a loved one through death is dreadful but there is a definite ending and you know that it is over. It is almost worse to lose someone through separation or divorce if you still love them, even though you may know you have done the right thing, you will always question it, and will start to dwell on all the good things on the relationship.

You need to cry and cry and cry and cry Joko. Don't bottle it up.

[4getmenot]

if you have ended it then you shouldnt ring him. If he rings and wants to try again then give him 1 chance but one chance only and start off slow. I was always ended it with this bloke and taking him back going straight back to where we'd left off, nothing ever changed. If you dont hear from him them leave it, move on. It is hard but you will get there xx

[LoftyLottie]

Whilst your around Joko, off the subject (but it will give you something else to think about) I posted a reply to your thread on the hard skin on your leg which I really think might help. Did you every see it.

Chin up girl and keep posting on here about how you feel because it helps to let it all out!

[joko]

thats it loftie...i know in the long run its for the best...but i just cant bear it...its so hard...it only happened yesterday you see, so its still a bit raw...its kind of just happened...i hadnt planned to do it so it was a bit of a shock, if you get me...
it took him ages to understand what i was saying too...

[mccfluff]

if you can switch your phone off, its goign to be tough but just try to remember why you feel its not going to work and focus on that, ihad an on;off relationship with a guy for about the same sort of time span and when i finally called it a day it was bl00dy hard but i did it

mind you he stole off me which made it easier to hate him.....

[society]

I only responded to the information you posted. You posted on a public forum because you want views and opinions... right? If I didn't say what you wanted to hear and if you disagreed with my opinion there's no need to be rude.