my husbands best mate drinks too much.

[ClaireBare]

to the extent he's always doing something disgusting at our house. Hes peed in the kitchen sink, the conservatory and in a wardrobe and the last time he was here i found him pleasuring himself with one of my daughters teddybear toys. (threw it out). Im at the end of my tether and my OH wont speak to him about hs drinking. What do you thnk i can do to stop him?

[ummmm]

Don't let him in your house when he's drunk.

[zzxxee]

agreed with ummmm shame you didnt film him then you could show it to him whilst he was sober !!!!!!

[sandyRoe]

Don't let him in your house drunk or sober. I think that behaviour show a lot of hostility.

[woofgang]

i agree with sandy...that's not just the alcohol, that's disturbed.

[chrissa1]

Totally agree with everyone.

[ummmm]

What is he like sober?

[chrissa1]

Just read your question again and I see you threw the teddybear out. I thought you had thrown Him out. You should have done.

[anneasquith]

tell him and your oh he is not welcome into your house if he is drunk,,,,,and dont give him alcohol if he is visiting,

[zzxxee]

i hope your kids are out of the way when he visits claire x

[woofgang]

sorry anneasquith but that behaviour, IMO goes beyond alcohol. Like sandy I wouldn't have him in my house sober either and would be talking seriously to OH about it, especially given that the OP has at least one child

[Rasman]

He does WHAT with your daughters toys?
Personally, I think that's the greatest issue here. The man needs monitoring/counciling.

[NOX]

I think you need to explain to your husband that he's not coming to your house again at least until he gets his drink issues dealth with. You don't say what he's like sober ( if he ever is), but if he's not a nice chap sober then don't have him there at all ever, as his behvaiour shows a monumental lack of self respect and self control and it's the self control issue here that's most worrying.

[MickyMacgraw]

Am I the only one that agrees with rasman? Here a grown male pleasuring himself with a childrens toy is sickening, disgusting and very worrying as I'm sure any psychologist would tell you. This guy seems to have some deep underlying issues as well as the alcohol issues and personally I would be weary of having a child in the same house as him.

[woofgang]

no you are not alone, sandy and I have said the same thing

[anneasquith]

out of interest claire. and dont answer if too intrusive. as he is a friend of oh, do they drink socially together ?ie would your husband be drunk when he visits ?

[MickyMacgraw]

Also to add why would your husband have a friend like this who is clearly a danger to himself and others if he's so out of it that he doesn't know where he is let alone the issues with him and childrens toys, could I ask how did he get hold of a childs toy, the childs bedroom maybe? Where where you and your husband when this occurred?

[Dris]

Is he Mad????

[thedaveformula]

Say: "If you behave like that in my house again I'll phone the ****ing police."