Bloody single again

[Goodsoulette]

Had the big and what looks like totally finalised split last night. how the blinking hell do I get over it when he's still living in my house? he wants to get through the weekend and act like normal whilst we have his kids over. I've never gone through a breakup when I haven't totally wanted and instigated it, but even though I;ve initiated this I was hoping for a Prince Charming to swoop me off on his white horse and make everything alright, instead he just seems to be happy to leave. It even looks like he just doesnt give a monkeys :( yeah yeah, poor me lol I envisage my answerbank addiction returning thanks to a new lack of things to do.

[anneasquith]

im sorry to hear your news. any chance of making up ?

[dotty.]

awwww that's bloody awful, but if you wanted him gone you must have known it wasn't right, and if you knew it wasn't right you wouldn;t have been addicted to the relationship and so you would have been untrue to yourself, if he;s still there and you're unsure it should end be honest with him, let him go or fight for him,

[Prudie]

I'm sorry too, worst time of the year to be going through a break-up

[AlBags]

Rebound relationships are no good usually .. You will be surprised what you can find to do and enjoy over the hols, if you start looking around. Got any mates to go see?

[NOX]

okay well first think rationally, he's not gone flouncing off so that doesn't smack of things being necessarily permanantly over- he's wanting everything to 'appear normal' whilst his kids are over this weekend. Maybe he's hoping that if everyone pretends to be normal then it'll slowly actually become true. We men are weird like that and don't always do a good job of showing our true feelings. What's he generally like as a person- is he open or is he hiding his feeling on this?

[ummmm]

How long have you been together?

[dotty.]

good call nox that's what I meant but i;m rubbish at this stuff

[ummmm]

I think NOX is right as well....pretend, and before you know it things are back to normal.

That's what me and the Ex (!!) use to do...

[NOX]

Dunno about that Dotty, I'm the divorced one;-)

[Goodsoulette]

It doesn't feel like hes suffering at all and he seems happiest he's been all week. There's been no big fights or anything. And yes, a crappy time, that's all my plans out the window for Christmas but I do have my own kids to entertain, so at least thats a merry distraction. I know he;s not just gone flouncing of noxy but........ he's/we've been on 12 hour shifts since so it's not like he's had the chance to and he won't just leave the dog lol

Albags, unusually for me, and I do mean that. In the past I've been fond of rebound shame but this time the thought of anyone else makes me feel a little bit icky.

[Goodsoulette]

And he's rubbish with his feelings, showing them good or bad. Sulky or shy is his forte.

[dotty.]

after 17 years with my OH we had a huge misunderstanding last week, I dropped him like a stone and refused to contact him, he rang me earlier and admitted guilt, apologised, grovelled and expressed his undying love for me, I;m rubbish with relationships but I am considering letting him get away with it,

[ummmm]

17 years??? Why did I think you was single Dot??

[dotty.]

I am single ummmm, well divorced.

[Goodsoulette]

I don't recall a mr. dot either. Fingers crossed for you Dotty.

[ummmm]

But you had a huge misunderstanding last week and he declared undying love...

Stop confusing me :-(

[dotty.]

I posted about it too lol his daughter added a random sibling on her facebook page!

[dotty.]

and you replied on it ummm DOH

[ummmm]

Did I???

My decent into dementia is happening :-(