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Like a girl. She doesn't like me back. Can't get over her. What to do?
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There is a girl I like alot. I'm in 9th grade. I've only had about 2 relationships in my life. I've told her how much I like her and she was okay with it but she also said that she doesn't feel the same way about me. She likes a guy in 12th grade. I don't have really good looks. I don't really have any athletic abilities. I am not all too impressive. The only thing I have is my personality. I want to get over her but i've tried before and I can't. I've liked her for 4 years. She is the only person in the world that makes me happy. Also, not like I can move on anyways as no other girls in my school likes me either. :( Kinda stuck. I have no idea what to do now. I had hopes and dreams but all were crushed when she told me she didn't feel the same way. I now have severe depression. I can barely get around any more. My self-confidence is gone. I am falling into a hole i'm afraid i can never get out of. She is the only girl i've ever felt this way about. I need somebody to tell me how to deal with this sort of situation.
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she obviously doesn't know what she is missing, you seem a great guy, being able to kick a ball around or do push ups is not what life's about. If that other person sucks at conversation
Chances are he won't want to go out with her because it will effect 'his all important world' one where...
Chances are he won't want to go out with her because it will effect 'his all important world' one where...
04:21 Sat 08th Jan 2011
codemister what happened to her friend? I'm glad you came back.
I know that it hurts but the fact that you have give up on the one that you liked, will be a new begining for you, four years is a long time to wait and hope for some one to like you back. You'll have been missing whats going on around you ie girls.
As far as looks go, well you have to make the most of what you'v got, make the most of you'r best features.
I know what I'm talking about because when I was in my early 20's I was told in a job interview (which I was well qualified for) that I would'nt be getting the job because I did'nt look like the other young girls that worked there.
How old are you?
I'v always hated the way American schools make such a big thing about looks and sport and the fact that you must fit in to at least one of them (my friend lived there).
keep busy and try not to keep looking back or thinking of her.
Put a smile on you'r face the world is out there waiting for you.
Forget girls for now, concentrate on studying as hard as you can so you can get a really well paid job. be happy, happy people are more attractive. listern to older people because most of them have been where you are now.
I know that it hurts but the fact that you have give up on the one that you liked, will be a new begining for you, four years is a long time to wait and hope for some one to like you back. You'll have been missing whats going on around you ie girls.
As far as looks go, well you have to make the most of what you'v got, make the most of you'r best features.
I know what I'm talking about because when I was in my early 20's I was told in a job interview (which I was well qualified for) that I would'nt be getting the job because I did'nt look like the other young girls that worked there.
How old are you?
I'v always hated the way American schools make such a big thing about looks and sport and the fact that you must fit in to at least one of them (my friend lived there).
keep busy and try not to keep looking back or thinking of her.
Put a smile on you'r face the world is out there waiting for you.
Forget girls for now, concentrate on studying as hard as you can so you can get a really well paid job. be happy, happy people are more attractive. listern to older people because most of them have been where you are now.
Indeed American schoolgirls r about looks and sports. And I can't completly forget about girls cuz then i'll b called a ***, gay, etc. I know in Britain the mentality towards gays are different but in America if people think your gay you have a SERIOUS problem. Also, the girl I like leads me on constantly. She makes me think I stand a chance then.... when I say something.... the answer is no. That is what makes it so damn hard to forget about her when she leads me on making me believe that she likes me. I get my hopes up... then they r CRUSHED. I'm starting to get a bit angry about it to tell you the truth. Then she goes on talking about how she thinks other guys are cute to me. ehhhh i can't stand this much longer
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Hi again Codemister.
It sounds to me that you are raising your hopes too much for a relationship with the wrong type of girl. When I was a young lad in your position (many moons ago as I'm 48!) the worst thing we could do was smoke cigarettes as we had never heard of sex or drugs! If we had however, I would have avoided any girl who 'got drunk and high' like the plague. It strikes me that you aren't that type either, especially as this girl seems to be playing with you if my reading is correct.
As I said several days ago, just concentrate on being yourself. Then you will meet a girl in the not-too distant future who will be attracted just to you and who will come to love you just for being you. At the end of the day, you can't be anyone else except yourself - non of us can - so why try? You sound like a very pleasant and decent lad Codemister and Miss Right is out there for you. Just be patient and you'll see I was right! Then you'll be very happy indeed and all this will be behind you.
It sounds to me that you are raising your hopes too much for a relationship with the wrong type of girl. When I was a young lad in your position (many moons ago as I'm 48!) the worst thing we could do was smoke cigarettes as we had never heard of sex or drugs! If we had however, I would have avoided any girl who 'got drunk and high' like the plague. It strikes me that you aren't that type either, especially as this girl seems to be playing with you if my reading is correct.
As I said several days ago, just concentrate on being yourself. Then you will meet a girl in the not-too distant future who will be attracted just to you and who will come to love you just for being you. At the end of the day, you can't be anyone else except yourself - non of us can - so why try? You sound like a very pleasant and decent lad Codemister and Miss Right is out there for you. Just be patient and you'll see I was right! Then you'll be very happy indeed and all this will be behind you.
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Well I was the outcast Codemister. I never had any friends and I never interacted with anyone from school. My problem was that my father was in the airlines and I grew up in various Asian countries. I went to the English Schools but my classmates were invariably Indian and Chinese. I only moved to the UK when I was 12 and I've never fitted in with my own people. I still only feel comfortable amongst the Indians and Chinese.
I never had a girlfriend until I met my first wife when I was 24. That was a disaster as she was an alcoholic but then I met my second wife who had a background in which she was isolated. She had different and far worse experiences but we found we were soul mates. We are both 48 and for the first time in our lives we have found someone we are happy with, can trust and we are inseperable. My wife did have an accident a few years ago but we were never apart before then and we haven't been since. We are also both very happy.
You might think you are different Codemister but as I said before, there is someone there for you if you are patient. As is usually the case, you will suddenly meet her in the most unexpected way when you weren't looking to.
I never had a girlfriend until I met my first wife when I was 24. That was a disaster as she was an alcoholic but then I met my second wife who had a background in which she was isolated. She had different and far worse experiences but we found we were soul mates. We are both 48 and for the first time in our lives we have found someone we are happy with, can trust and we are inseperable. My wife did have an accident a few years ago but we were never apart before then and we haven't been since. We are also both very happy.
You might think you are different Codemister but as I said before, there is someone there for you if you are patient. As is usually the case, you will suddenly meet her in the most unexpected way when you weren't looking to.
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Thank you Pinkilady.
Like Codemister I alwasy thought I was different and I got very depressed once I'd convinced myself that I somehow was, although I couldn't understand it. Now I look back and think that I was just me! That's what my wife likes - nothing more or less. That's what I'm trying to explain to Codemister, although it's not easy to see when you are still that deep in the woods.
Like Codemister I alwasy thought I was different and I got very depressed once I'd convinced myself that I somehow was, although I couldn't understand it. Now I look back and think that I was just me! That's what my wife likes - nothing more or less. That's what I'm trying to explain to Codemister, although it's not easy to see when you are still that deep in the woods.
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Hi,
I just meant that I would not go out with someone that my best friend was interested in, because I have more loyalty to her and would not upset her.(You said her best friend liked you?) She is leading you on because she knows you like her and it is flattering. Great for her confidence, but not for yours. As others have said, make out you suddenly have no interest in her at all and she will wonder what's happened. Should get her thinking anyway!
I just meant that I would not go out with someone that my best friend was interested in, because I have more loyalty to her and would not upset her.(You said her best friend liked you?) She is leading you on because she knows you like her and it is flattering. Great for her confidence, but not for yours. As others have said, make out you suddenly have no interest in her at all and she will wonder what's happened. Should get her thinking anyway!
