Advice needed please

[candy_hearts]

I was at my friends house the other night and briefly met his flatmate before she went out. A group of us then went out and got quite drunk and later went back to his. She arrived home an hour later, barged into the bathroom and caught me doing a few lines of coke. she said she was sorry and quickly shut the door. i then went back into the lounge (where she was now sitting with my friends) and carried on drinking. it was pretty awkward but i spoke to her later on and she said she wouldnt say anything to my friend, who is VERY anti drugs and would probably never speak to me again.
later on, they were talking about a man, though only referred to him by his first name. I piped up "is that so-and-so" and she said it was and asked if i knew him. i said i did and she asked why i'd said that with a smile on my face. i replied that i knew him "very well indeed" and that i'd had a fling with him. she then told me he was her boyfriend!!! i tried to back peddle and said it was about 6 years ago and wasn't anything serious as i was married, so it was an affair. she then said they'd been together for over 13 years and became quite hostile towards me.
my friend said we should leave it and talk about it in the morning but i ended up falling asleep in his room (nothing happened!) i saw her in the morning when i left and tried to apologise, but she just blanked me. i then discovered later on that she's added my husband as a friend on facebook, even though he says he doesnt know her.
i'm now really worried that she is going to a, tell my husband where i was all night and b, tell my friend i was snorting coke in his bathroom. i dont know what to do for the best, try and speak to her or just avoid her altogether?

[woofgang]

Whatever happens you deserve it

[LoftyLottie]

Oh dear! No advice to give I'm afraid. Woofgang is right. You have played with fire for what it seems is a long time and at some time you were going to get burnt!!

[ummmm]

Tell your husband that as he doesn't know her...delete her.

[dotty.]

hang on, a bloke you know, not your husband, whose room you slept in, has a female flat mate who has a boyfriend that she has been with 13 years but does not live with but you are having an affair with him and you do drugs get drunk and shag about and then panic cos your husband has added the woman your lover dates on facebook?
Are you practising for a soap script competition

[candy_hearts]

I was thinking of logging into his facebook and doing that and then blocking her.
i know what i did was awful but it was a long time ago and he just wouldn't see it like that.
I feel like i can't just sit back and wait for the Sugar to hit the fan.
also, my friend is being really off with me now as he says i have upset her. even though he has known me for years and her for five minutes!

[Bbbananas]

Mmmm, does sound a bit like a storyline from EastEnders......

[candy_hearts]

they dont live together cos he is a musician so is away alot touring.
i didn't even know he had a regular girlfriend when i had the affair with him.

[China Doll]

You're just going to have to wait and see how this one plays out. You have no control over the situation and I don't see how you can regain it.

[WELSHYORKIE]

My thoughts exactly, Sal

[ummmm]

And does your husband not know you like a bit of sniff?

[LoftyLottie]

or the odd affair!!

Yes Eastenders does spring to mind!

[redcrx]

does that mean you dont care that she tells your hubby you were snorting coke?

[Old_Geezer]

Since you tried to speak, and got ignored, I'd suggest leave things well alone and hope it all blows over. Unsure there is much else to do except mend your ways. If you can say you feel you have got something wrong, presumably that's a clue on how to change for the better.

[candy_hearts]

my husband wouldnt care about the coke. he knows i do it every now and again. its not as if i do it all the time, just on occasions when i need to let off steam.

I'm only bothered about my friend knowing about the coke, he would probably never speak to me again.

[ummmm]

Oh well....maybe you should be more selective in whose company you do it in.

[redcrx]

you couldnt make it up lol

[McMouse]

My head hurts.....this one for Grollykins.

[LoftyLottie]

And Candy's affairs aren't serious because she is married!! ;o)