watching adult movies

[confussed_lady]

My boyfriend like most men has been watching porn, this was a bit upsetting for me as we dont have sex that often and things seam to have got a bit boring recently.
I suggested that if he was going to watch porn then we should save the arguments (he tries to hide the fact he watches it) and watch it together, but when we went to watch it he acted all dumb like he didnt know what he was doing and made me feel a bit daft really. He didnt get excited or even act like he wanted to be watching it.
Any suggestions please on how i can spice things up xx

[NazNomad]

"... like most men"?

Well, like 'most women', you're talking Sugar, lol


JOKE ... (although you are - it was the 'most women' part I was joking about).

[Sqad]

<<<<<Any suggestions please on how i can spice things up xx<<<<<

Lamb vindaloo?

[confussed_lady]

this really doesnt help!! so most men dont watch porn do they not??
and as for a vindaloo id rather get him in bed not put him on the toilet all night!!!!

[jd_1984]

Make your own movie!

[NazNomad]

hehe :-P not you boxy x

[MarkRae]

How long do you give it...?

[NazNomad]

"... so most men dont watch porn do they not??"

You've said they do, it must be right.

[confussed_lady]

what do u mean mark how long do i give it? how long did i sit there flicking through movies?? about an hour, he was led in bed smoking a cig... telling me to choose and when i did he said i had a crap choice lol

[jd_1984]

Each pick a film and you have to copy what is going on in the film.

[boxtops]

I wouldn't bother if I were you. I am told that watching on your own is a lot more interesting that watching it with your girlfriend. Where's the fantasy if you are there?

[candy_hearts]

The majority of men I know do watch porn! i'd forget the whole 'watching it together' thing, as he obviously likes to do this on his own.
as for spicing things up, how about role play? clearly he likes fantasies so why not find out what his are and go for that. dress up is always good!
tie him up, blindfold? Food? shall i carry on?
if you don't get turned on by something though then theres not much point in doing it. as with the porn, you'll just end up feeling silly.

[DTCwordfan]

I'm writing this e-mail whilst watching "Big Babes on the Isle of Lesbos" and reading my contributions to Literotica...............

[confussed_lady]

ive tried the whole dressing up thing, i own most outfits going they get worn once and put to back of drawer, blind fold, tieing up etc he will happily do it to me but i cnt touch him. Hes a little on the shy side when hes around me and we have been together 4years, it just all seams to be quick under covers fumble once a week if that and then its not mentioned till the week after.

[snags]

Forget him and get yourself one of these ;-p

http://i151.photobuck.../snagged_01/ssrev.gif

[DTCwordfan]

(i) go on a sex course together - sounds like he needs some coaching
(ii) get him a good lez film (and not necessarily full blue) to show him the techniques of turning a woman on and its said women are better at it with a woman....as bottom men are with men.

(iii) write him e-mails of encouragement with "more of, less of" included, and describe to him what he does to you in terms of feelings and how our orgasm builds when he does it right............I was lucky early in my life having an older gf who properly taught me how to o a woman......

[candy_hearts]

not being funny but why are you still together? i know sex isn't the most important thing in a relationship but in my opinion it is still a very important factor. clearly you both have very different ideas when it comes to sex and he doesn't sound asthough his sex drive is very high, whilst yours is. it sounds like you've tried most things you would be happy with and so i dont really know what else to suggest. he sounds like a bore in the bedroom.

[confussed_lady]

Because i love him... when we 1st got together we were always at it but things just seam to have died over the past 12months, i keep telling him its important and he promises things will change, so in that week whlst things r changng we stretch to 2xs a week!!! maybe im just asking to much??

[candy_hearts]

trust me, you will get bored of having to keep on at him! and no, you are not asking too much. if you were at it like rabbits when you first got together then it's him thats changed and will probably stay that way.