What would you think?

[ummmm]

OH's mate is getting married. His mate used to live here years back...so did his brother (best mate) On our last night out the Brother mentioned that we might be only getting an evening invite to the wedding. Fair enough....we rarely see him now and weddings are expensive.

Anyway, invitation, or should I say two invitations, came through today. One for him for the day do, including hotel...and one for me for the evening do.

What do you think? Is it just bad etiquette?

[mccfluff]

wrong, your a couple and not a new couple at that you should both be invited to day and evening or just evening

[tiggerblue10]

Very odd! Did the evening one include your OH?

[cazzz1975]

very bad!

however maybe he didnt want to choose which part you went to and sent an invitation for both assuming you will decide on one of them and let him know??

[craft1948]

surprisingly I agree with fluff.............

[tiggerblue10]

Or have I just read it wrong.

[China Doll]

Nah... As you say, it might just be an expense thing and in that instant, it's your OH who's the one he's closest to and really wants there for the whole day but he obviously doesn't want to leave you out and wants you as part of it too. Perhaps a bit thoughtless but I don't think he's being nasty.

[mccfluff]

oi crafty

[Prudie]

I'd think it very thoughtless and bad manners and puts you and OH in a difficult position. I'd be really cross and hurt.

[craft1948]

s0d off back to the MOFC fluffy.............

[society]

I'm guessing, but, perhaps it's expected that you and Ginger would escort each other respectively. I don't know... this is confusing. Everyone up there have a point. :-)

[mccfluff]

but its more your era though innit

[ummmm]

No...it's two separate invites. His is just addressed to Martin with a menu to fill out...mine was just a card addressed to...errr..me.

Fluff - this is the brother of the mate I told you about...(made me wonder)

I didn't really say anything to Ginge because if he thought it bothered me he wouldn't go. That's a decision I'd rather he made without any input from me.

I find it strange mainly because he's never lived with a GF before....and was single for years before me. To me it's like they are not acknowledging our relationship..if that makes sense?

[China Doll]

I think you have to consider how close a friend they are and how often you see them... If it was a best mate then i'd think it was a bit out of order but if it's someone you rarely see then I don't think it's worth getting upset about.

[sara3]

very poor. what will you do?

[tiggerblue10]

Personally, I'd RSVP saying that I would not be able to attend at all.

[mccfluff]

well in that case, out of order, but i would speak to ginge

[China Doll]

Ummmm - your answer wasn't there when I typed. I really don't think it's strange, a bit inconsiderate but not strange really. It's probably just an expenses thing and they're just being really selective. Unless they have a habit of never acknowledging you two are together then I think it's probably just not worth it.

[ummmm]

China - he's seen him once in about 4 years. If they arranged their matey meet ups I'd understand more.

I'm not going btw....I'm not driving that far out on my own and I'm certainly not paying taxi fairs x 2.

[society]

Reading back the OP I do think that you both are invited singularly to each event. That very tacky in my opinion.

[ummmm]

I won't go Sara - not in a moody way...just not willing to go to the trouble to get there.

Not sure about Ginge...he didn't look impressed.