My Mum wont accept me :(

[CraZy-GranT]

Well, I Came out to my mum 2 months ago as being gay.
And i have to say.. It couldn't of gone any worse
She is trying to force me to get a girlfriend.. and i really don't find girls attractive. she also wont listen to what i have to say.. Please help. I'm not sure if i got this in the right topic area :S My dad seems okay about it, he has said some very nice things to me when mum was out of the house. He said he is fine about it and don't let my mum be a barrier in my life :)
I was just wondering if there was anything i could say/do to make my mum accept me

[chicho,bird2]

be who
you are

mum will come round eventually

gay sons r better than havin sdaughters

take it in your stride

have you always been gay ?

as mums do know in there mind xxxx

[terambulan]

How about....."Mum, you're the only woman I love". Why is there pressure on you to have a girlfriend, am sure there are lots of girls you know who are your friends but you just dont fancy them.

Just tell your mum, you will know the right girl for you......and just carry on with whom you feel most comfortable with.

[pinktwink]

all you can do is remain true to yourself. sad as it may be you can never change the views of others unless they themselves are open to change. Be patient with her she is struggling with the news too and has her own issues to deal with around it, particularly given she will ahve expected you to marry have kids etc. The more you try to persuade her the more she may resist. Give her space stop trying to make her accept your sexuality. The most important thing is you accept it and enjoy life and be safe. Sometimes we cant change others we can only change how we respond. Good luck

[CraZy-GranT]

Well yeah, I believe people are born gay, But i only realised i was about a year ago.!
And thankyou. But she seems pretty homophobic calling me names and things...
I just want her to accept me soon! !:(

[wonkon-wonk]

nothing you can do....it's your mum that as the problem
she needs to do something, like accept it!



gay sons r better than havin sdaughters


er what chico??????

[pinktwink]

be patient with her think of long it took you to realise and accept you are gay she needs time to see. The most important thing to help her will be for you to show that you are happy and secure with your sexuality

[rabbitygirl]

My son was in turmoil a few years ago and I asked him if he was gay. The relief on his face at that question will always stay with me. I don't have a problem at all with his sexuality. But his father doesn't know. And we are not going to tell him. He has voiced his homophobia on many occasions.

Neither of us is keen to 'test the water' with him, so it's left. The danger obviously, is that he, and I, may face big problems if we do tell him and he does not accept him.

I don't like the situation. But I don't have a crystal ball to judge the outcome if we tell him. I dream of the day he knows and it isn't the problem I fear.

So, he has one parent who accepts, like you. But is spared the difficulties of having one parent who doesn't.
I know we cannot make my hubby accept if he doesn't feel he can. And I can't think of anything you can do to make your mum change her feelings.

Perhaps in time, with help from your lovely dad, it will change. In the mean time worry about yourself and your adjustment, and be very thankful for your dad. And keep a friend of your mum if you can. I'm sure she can't help her feelings, and wishes like you she can accept.

[chicho,bird2]

hey wonkin

the gay boys are more housepride

and have more respect than girls

its hard to come oot the closet with parents

but and a big but

they respect you xxxxxxxxx

[wonkon-wonk]

have you had trouble with a daughter?

[mrs.chappie]

Wonky, how long have ya got? lol

[pinktwink]

but mrs chappie arent i the perfect daughter gee thanks mom lol

[wonkon-wonk]

well at least another 30 years i hope chappie

[mrs.chappie]

Me little pink twinkler, you are the puuuuuuurfect daughter!

Hey, seriously - I was so sorry to hear about your real mum. That's no age to die. How old were you? Ya poor we lassie - here, have a big kiss (excuse us Crazy-GranT).

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx(X)xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[CraZy-GranT]

Lol i've started something off here XD
Oh well, i don't mind :D

[pinktwink]

she is dead 3 years now it was a relief in the end she suffered so much and yet her mind was perfect. I am lucky my gran and godmum are still in good health and i am very close to them thats my mums mum and her sister.

Hey now i have a cyber mom and gran mrs evp has adopted me too as a grand daughter

bigs hugs(((((((((((((((((((((((())))))))))))))))))))))))))))

and kisses xxxx

[chicho,bird2]

none of
your buissness wonky tonk

if i hav


but no i havnt had a problem with her

or my son
i know from a gay lad i socially go out with

and he is ace xxx

[mrs.chappie]

Hey pink, it's good you've still got ya gran - I bet she reminds you a lot of yer mum?

I'm trying to imagine what it must have been like for ya gran to lose her daughter - absolutely awful for her. Give her a big hug and kiss from your cyber mum!

[pinktwink]

ta mrs chappie yep my gran is 85 in january and i was always close to her she is so sweet besides i reckon my mum is with me all the time i only have to look in the mirror i am so like her which is comforting