Help where do I stand?

[Snowflake85]

I've just got married to a man that is in the Army. He got posted out to Germany a few months before the wedding. I have a 3 year old from a previous relationship who's father see's her for an hour 2 nights in the week and on alternate weekends. He started paying CSA last year although this had to be done by attachement of earnings on his wage. I now wish to move to Germany with my new husband. The father is not currently on the birth certificate (due to him not being around the first 6 months after the birth) but is threatening to take me to go to court to make that happen. If he does get on the certificate what are my chances of moving to Germany with my husband and child? I will make sure the father still see's her in all the holidays and I am willing to sign something to agree to this. Can anyone offer any advise?

[Thesilentone]

I am not sure how it works with parental responsibility on this one, howver have the Army got a Welfare system with Welfare workers that can offer you advice and assistance.. quiet often they can offer you free legal advice.. it maybe worth Giving Army Welfare a call.

I hope it works out for you xxx

[zzxxee]

an hour twice a week hardly makes him dad of the year does it? get a solicitor who deals in family law and follow their advice

[RavenD]

You'll probably have to go to court after all he is still the father and he still has rights. If he wants to be in his childrens lives then isn't that a good thing ? I would advise you to seek legal counsel on this matter.