HELP please i really need ideas and others views on this

[izzieamy]

is corporal punishment to a child adminstered by parents acceptable ?

[firetracie]

People use extremes of physical punishment to justify reasons why corporal punishment should not be used. But extreme's are rare and legislating against it doesn't stop abuse.

As in all things common sense should prevail. I understand many of the references 10ClarionSt has used and would agree, in the main, that such mild physical chastisement as a clip around the ear have little long term effect on children. But I do find myself concerned at reference to a leather belt.

In my opinion the answer is 'it depends'. I used 'corporal punishment on my children when they were small but only in certain circumstances. The 'naughty step' hadn't been invented and people weren't exposed to so much 'advice' or 'learned opinion' as they are now so sometimes, when telling hadn't worked, when repeated threatening didn't work then yes - I smacked them. Most of the time this happened it was because they were about to do something which would have hurt them a lot more than the smack did. Once they got to the stage where communicating with them was really possible and they really began to understand the implications of their behaviour ( 7 or 8) it became unnecessary and I can't recall a time after that when they were smacked.

I don't agree with formal corporal punishment at school - although I must admit I feel there would be fewer problems if teachers were able to administer a 'clip around the ear' at times.

[pinktwink]

no. this is a widely debated issue?? where do you draw the line at the age and force with which you slap a child?what are you teaching them that it is ok to hit others? hittting is a response in my opinion to parental frustration at a childs behaviour. Surely it makes more sense to stand back, even walk away from a childs behaviour and then calmly come back and advise them there behaviour is unacceptable explaining why and give consequences eg go to your room , no tv etc. Most misbehaviour continues a sit gains parental attention even where that attention is negative. Ignoring the misbehaviour consistently and praising a child for behaving yields more results. Most children do not continue tantrums etc when parents walk away and can not seee them. Children are very skilled at knowing what gets to parents in their efforts to get their way these are the times it is importnt the child sees that you are in control not them. This is aslo why you need to pause, breath and choose how you want to respond as opposed to the child dictating your response through frustration

[smurf21]

no never no way its abuse period.