My Mother Arrrgh!!!

[puddicat]

Have spoken about my mum before about her need to buy and hoard useless objects and buy me food that i dont either want or like,its getting worse i keep trying to tell her that i dont like tinned sardines or cheapo tomato soup,and out of date stuff,but she has turned up today with tomato soup and crisps that are out of date,and this hideous giant bratz alarm clock,that a eight year old would relish, obviously got from a boot sale,i was at work so these items were in ther kitchen when i arrived home what can i do???

[golly53]

Puddicat

didnt realise we are related!!! LOL

Love her - thank her & then find someone else who wants the excess and charity shop the 'lovely' clock

cheers

[Velvetee]

How old is your mum Puddi and does she live with you?

If it was me, I'd just throw them out and if she asked, I'd just feign ignorance and say i have no idea where they are.

[puddicat]

velvet think she must be nearly eighty,doesnt live with me couldnt handle it lol!!!

[Velvetee]

Mine is 83 and losing her marbles a bit. She rings me up to 30 times per day and just repeats the same old thing over and over.

I've had to turn off my mobile phone answering service, as it infuriates me how she fills my mail box with nothing. She will listen to the recorded message and then when it starts recording, say nothing. This means no one else can leave legitimate messages.

They do become very annoying with age, but I know when my phone eventually stops ringing, because mum is no longer around, I'll be devastated and miss those annoying calls.

[puddicat]

velvet my mum is still pretty switched on,but does go over the same conversation at times, i really feel that i am turning into her as i grow older!!!

[Velvetee]

It happens, my other half says I'm turning into my mother. I am very negative like her and do moan about everything.

Another thing that is annoying me is, I'm getting married in April and have hired carers to bring mum to the wedding, but every week she says she wants to come down the day before. She won't understand that I won't have time to deal with her and listen to all the negative harping on, on my wedding day.

I've also told her several times I'm getting her an outfit for the day, but she keeps going on about wanting to wear some old black dress, which I know is covered in holes. Why are old people like this?

[puddicat]

velvet we are sisters my mother always wears black all the time something to do with my dad saying she looked good in it a thousand years ago,now she looks like queen victoria slimmer of course!!!

[obNOXious]

I'm reading this thread and am torn between the amusement it's obviously supposed to convey and very real distress.
People get old and go a bit loopy, it's a fact of life and one day your kids will doubtless be saying the same things about you and I know that you appreciate that you'll miss her when she's gone and all that, but do yourself a favour and try to bear with her because you'll remember all of the times you didn't when she is.
My mother was nothing short of an abusive bitch, however she is the only one I've got and for whatever her reasons were, she clearly did the best job she knew how to do, albeit that was sadly lacking.
I'd personally relish having memories of my mum bringing me out of date sardines and a mankey plastic clock, i'm sure she means well and if it's her way of trying to apologise for things in the past then accept it as such, however inappropriate, some people never even bother trying:)

[puddicat]

obnoxious oh so true, will miss her,find my siblings wont,my youngest sister wouldnt really be bothered when she passes on!!!

[Mr Veritas]

Hi there puddicat,
Oddly enough one of our Grandosns MIL's (does that make sense?) is just like this.
He got so fed up that he changed the door locks so she couldn't get in (with the agreement of his wife).
It certainly pulled her up sharp,and even though she now does it to another of her Daughters,she doesn't do it to this couple.
Ever thought of changing the locks?

[puddicat]

no sir,she is a giving mum materially but love or showing it doesnt come easy to her and its made me the same!!!

[joko]

does she know you dont like it? maybe she thinks you really appreciate it...

as others have said, she obviously means well...and it probably makes her happy yo think she snapping up bargains for you...just bin it later an return to charity shops...any food you dont like you could donate to a local shelter...

[puddicat]

joko i loves ya,if i returned it to a charity shop me mum would think she had had found its partner and bring me the same stuff back to me!!!

[Sachs]

Hi puddi xxx
Just to say, obnoxious.... that was very sweet!

[Bettyboo22]

do what we do wait until the next local raffle bung it all in a basket and wait and see all the nice looks you get when you donate a " hamper "

[carmalee]

just wish my Mum was still here to drive me nuts.

[Nannyjillx2]

My mum used to do this as a family we got so fed up with it .

In the end I stated asking her to buy certain things then I used them to fill boxes to send off to Romania or where ever at Christmas. She was happy and the receipients were happy. Sadly she can't do it anymore

[Dolly1308]

Sorrypuddicat but it's your Mum I feel sorry for,she's trying to show she loves you but you are like a prickly hedgehog and won't let her near you . OK so she wasn't the perfect Mother but she is trying so hard to make up for it ,help her by being generous enough to accept her love albeit el cheapo tomato soup etc .
I'll guarantee you'll be similar when you are her age and then what????