My dad was very abusive to my younger brother particulary after he'd been drinking. He used to go out get drunk and then he'd come home and beat my brother. This used to happen regulary for years until my mom finally kicked him out and told him to never come near us again. That was 5 years ago.
I recently got a message on my facebook from my dad saying that now I was 21 he would like to come back into my life. He admits he was wrong for what he did to my brother and said he has seeked therapy and that he'd even like to make it up to him. I don't know what to do as he is my father and he never hurt me directly but on the other hand he used to get a thrill out of mercilessly whipping my brother with a belt
I'd be tempted to speak to the rest of the family about it.
It is, of course, your decision but I'd be worried about affecting your relationship with your brother and mother if you get back in touch with him, especially as they have been with you all along.
I've already asked my mother about it and she says its up to me if I want to do it. My brother still hates my dad (understandable after what he did) so I don't know how he'd react
You could end up loosing your brother, understandably he still has a lot of hatred for your father, and despite him not having touched you, there has to be some kind of loyalty to your brother. No one deserves what your brother got, especially from their own father, a parent is there to protect you form the world.
I agree with Mark though, anyone who hits kids needs some "special understanding" applied
Think you should not get involved with this man who has just re-appeared in your life.
Show loyalty to your brother, and remember the suffering he went throughas a child.
The man does not deserve to be classed as a father.
What if he has changed? What if he no longer drinks because of what he done?
It could go one way or the other. She could look at him and realise he's not worth the effort or she could end up with a loving father that he's denied her for the last 21 years.