12 yr old son has got into wrong crowd and changed so much...

[Smowball]

Common story, but my son started secondary school last September with above average Sats results, and was a model pupil. Within weeks he has become very good friends with 3 of the most disruptive pupils in the school, and I dont recognise my child anymore. He talks as though he is in some street gang, he gets detentions(after never having one in his life), I have been called up the school to discuss his behaviour in class. He argues about absolutely everything, tries to alter his uniform every morning, so it looks nothing like a uniform, blatantly refuses to do things...... I absolutely dread the mornings now. He is an easily led child and I think he is trying to impress these other boys by acting like them but he is going downhill rapidly and I dont know what to do.

[Smowball]

Yeh, I know. Just wen you've argued about 10 things by 8am then anything else tips you over the edge, even if its trivial. Wont wear his school shoes - doesnt like them, even though he chose them. Wont wear school fleece - coz his mates dont.Wont wear brand new coat that he agreed he wanted - coz his mates dont!! even though its -3 degrees today......

[ummmm]

I think this goes on with kids not going through the 'phase'

[Smowball]

Maybe I just need to take a few more deep breaths and hope he will grow out of it! btw didnt realise 12 yr olds could glare at you so much!

[ummmm]

My youngest does the glare. He's 13 now. He can be a right pain in the backside at home. Perfect at school though.

Opposite scenario with the eldest.

Which goes to show...it has nothing to do with parenting!

[Smowball]

lol, I feel better already. Just so dont want him to end up a right trouble-maker. Once you get that reputation at school then its very hard to shift. Kids!