Child Support

[artful_1]

My husband and I have been seperated for years. The problem I have is we have 2 children. I support them buy everything they need, and my husband pays nothing. He hasnt a job and hasnt had one in 10 Years, but he still finds money to buy the designer clothes for himself, which to me says he can only be involved in something illegal. Regardless of that I believe he should be helping to support our kids, its becoming a struggle financially now, and I'm having to refuse the children certain things due to lack of money. I dont want to know what he is involved in I just want him to help provide for our children. Is there anyway I can get him to pay me a certain amount a week for them. Also because he says he's not working and is on no benefits, I think there is no way the Child Support Agency can get anything if he claims he has nothing. I'm needing some real serious advice and I need it quickly because I dont know what else I can do.

[madnbad]

hello artful i sympathise with your situation i was the same till last year wen ex started workin then CSA got him they cannot take money from his benefits ive had to bring my children up on my own i would ask once twice a year for help from him he kept refusing then boasting that he had all this money and the amount he was giving his new mrs for there child wyle i was getting nothing i snapped and contacted CSA now im the worse person in the world to him all i can suggest is that you try and appeal to his better nature n keep your fingers crossed i always said i wouldnt want his money cos id have to thank him for something now it goes into bank accounts for the kids so they can have it wen they are older i realy hope he coughs up nothing worse than all worries about money when kids are involved the men dont see the kids faces wen u have to say no he now pleads poverty tyring to get me to cancel CSA so good luck xxxx

[WendyS]

I sympathise with your difficulty.  Are you, by any chance still in touch with your husband's parents (i.e. the children's paternal grandparents)?

If so, is there a possibility they might be able to exert some pressure on their son to face up to his responsibilities?  I am sure they wouldn't want to see their grandchildren suffering financially and they might at least be able to offer you some moral support.

[louadams6]

i too sympathise i really do. i would contact the citizens advice bureau, they should tell you all your rights, good luck x

[joannalesley]

if you get in touch with the CSA they will write to him and he will have to pay you at least �25 per week, i know thats if you have one child it could be more if you have two. If he does not work he will have to start claiming job seakers allowance and the CSA  

[joannalesley]

can deduct it from that money the CSA are