3 Year Old Wetting Herself

[station4]

Hi
My daughter will be 4 at the end of June and she is still wetting herself anything upto 4-5 times a day. I ask her if she needs to go she shouts and protests that she dosent then you see she already done it. Her wee is also quite smelly. I also have a son who was dry day and night by the age of 3. Am tearing my hair out washing coming out of my ears!!!!!

[redcrx]

I would suggest that you try and get a sample of her urine and go to GP. She may have an infection

[ethanryan]

my niece is 4 in june too and she is still in nappies, she isnt in a state nursery because they wont take her with nappies on. i have two boys and i find that my nieces wee is very strong compared to the boys. she has been tested and was fine. i have been told by many people that girls wee alot more and are harder to train. not sure if it true. if the doc says there is nothing wrong then ypu need to be strong and stick to your guns. i made the mistake with my son of putting pants on him in the house, then if we went in a car i put a nappy on him saces him wetting himself, but this made things worse, then one day i decided we will master it. there was no more nappies in the day anymore. everytime he weed i would make him sit on the potty for a couple of minutes. not shoputing at him but letting him know what he did was wrong.let her run round the house with a bare bum untill she has got used to using the potty . my son would always use potty if had nothing on then when i put pants on him he would wet himself.
all kids are different but you need to sick to it and either put her in nappies or take then away for good. she may have 5 accidents a day now but stick with it and these accidents with reduce within weeks or even days ,

[ethanryan]

sorry me again-
another tip to try that worked for me is dont ask her if she needs a wee tell her she is going to try and have a wee and just sit her on. my son still tells me he dont need one but when i put him on toilet or poty he goes. even if you sit her on every half hour she will gradually start doing it herself
good luck!- your not alone i was asking the same questions on here about my son a few months ago

[Ice.Maiden]

Have you tried the trainer pants yet? My sons were both 4 before they stopped having accidents. I thought they'd end up going to school in nappies - but they all go at their own rate, so I wouldn't worry too much.

[FUZZYBEE]

This might not be relevant but i'll say it anyway.
My daughter really didn't like anything to do with a potty and I tried and coaxed until one day she went straight up to the toilet. It then slicked that she hated the potty but she loved bathrooms, i think she was just nosy and like to have a in the bathroom.
Buy her some of those kiddy wet wipes and a special funky hand wash of her own and try and get her straight in the loo.
Maybe let her choose a pretty pack of knickers too that she really likes.

[xanderma]

My health visitor told me that the nerve endings in the bladder take longer to develop than in other parts of the body. Until they have developed, there is no way the child can feel that they need to "go".

I know a lot of people will disagree, but it would make sense with your daughter's case. I am a firm believer in not potty/toilet training as such, just stick with the pull-ups and try again in a month or so.

And sorry to sound "preachy", but try not to complare her with your son, they're all so different, all three of mine did the toilet thing differently (and, yes, my boy was soooo much easier than my girls!)

[xanderma]

Sorry, me again, - etahryan's comment that the state nursery wouldn't take his/her niece because she was in nappies makes me angry - surely that's discrimination??!!

I admit it was the same when my elder daughter was young, she couldn't join pre-school until she was dry, but that was 10 years ago and thankfully all the nurseries and pre-schools (state and private) around here are now firmly in the 21st century.

Rant over.... ;-)

[clare_1]

Hi as a nurse and a mum to a 4 year old boy i would like to voice my opinion. Ok if her wee is smelly she may be dehydated or have an infection. I doubt its an infection. Not drinking nough of the RIGHT fuids will make her dehydrated.

My son still has the odd accident cos he will be too into whateva he is doing to go to the toilet. I managed to get on top of the situation by limiting small drinks to mealtimes and 1 between each meal and making him drink them slowly rather then gulping as that will cause a sudden urge o got o the loo. Also he has to go for a wee when i get him each drink and then half an hour after. Therefore he goes without protest cos otherwise he wone get a drink. Hope I helped.

[clare_1]

By the way my son now goes to the toilet without prompting most of the time.

[newtron]

My wife and I just adopted a three year old girl and her younger sister. The three year old is potty trained. We were having problems with the three year old going to bed in her room. She would refuse to stay in her room at night and would have severe temper tantrums. Confining her to her room during her temper tantrums (while we ignored her) taught her quickly to stay in her room at night. However, she then started peeing and pooing on herself at night to get us to come and clean her up. We then started putting a change of clothes and baby wipes on her dresser every night and told her that if she pees or poos on herself, she needs to clean herself and change her clothes. If she came out of her room to get our help, we could confine her to her room. For a couple of weeks, she was cleaning and dressing herself every night and when she would tell us about it in the morning, we would acknowledge it and then change the subject. She now stays in her room all night and does not pee or poo on herself.

In the last couple of months, we have learned that three year olds will do almost anything to get attention. So we basically ignore the behaviors that we don't like. Maybe you can tell your daughter that if she has an accident, she has to clean herself and redress herself. If at first she refuses, put her in her room and don't let her out until she cleans and dresses herself. Then when she wets herself, she can take care of herself and you don't make a big deal of it. If she talks about her wetting herself, acknowledge her, but don't lecture her or dwell on the subject. This methodology may sound harsh, but it has worked great with our daughter. Good luck!

[charleysez]

Just seen thias thread and my daughtet is 3 years 7 months and doing exactly the same. Did it get better and if so how did it happen. My daughter does have smelly wee but I've checked that she doesn't have a baldder infection. Anyone else have the same and how was this overcome. I can;t help but be angry and I know this is wrong but its so frustating.