Moving child to different country, due to step father's new job

[josie33]

I have been divorced from my ex husband for 5 years now, and have re married, last year. My ex husband has supervised contact every sunday with our daughter. But my new husband has secured a job in Italy, and I was wondering where we, stand on moving my daughter to a new counrty, permanently?

All thoughts, suggestions and help welcome.

Many thanks in advance

[treborrobert]

why as he got superviised visits ? i take it he carnt see her alone.. well just go have you got a passport for your daughter ? if yes just go ..if he wants to make thngs complacated he will.. as in sayin you carnt take her out of the country without his say so egc..

you are not going because you want to get away from him ..and you dont want to take him away from his daughter ..so you are in a no win situation ...someone is going to get hurt... if you feel its a better life for your daughter and your daughters ok with it ..go for i ... how old is your daughter and what she saying about the thought of not see her father as often ???

[josie33]

He has supervised visits as our daughter has said that he cant keep his hands to himself (a polite way of putting it). And he def cannot see her alone.

Its not a case of wanting to take her away from him, and it is a better life for her over there. Have done my homework and checked out schools, and found one there, near where we woiuld be, thats perfect for her.

Even before speaking to my daughter about this, she has repeatedly said that she doesnt want to see her dad. And that she only goes because the judge says she has to go to see him.

She is 9 years old.

[rosamundjohn]

Who has custody and control of your daughter?

[treborrobert]

well then you go ...end off... you do whats best for your daughter....

if he has suprvised visits ...as in carnt be trusted alone with the child ... why put the child threw it ....


just go !!!!!!!!

[treborrobert]

and one more thing .. a judge carnt make your daughter see her father ....

a judge is there to do whats best for the child ....

and if the child wishes not to see her father there is no judge that can make her ...

so you are wrong about that ...

its upto you to inform courts of your daughters wishes and upto you to see that your daughters requests are met !!!..

you are the mother.....and your daughter as told you see wishes not to see him ...

SO DO WHAT SHE WISHES !!!!