Confused about Nappy Changing

[Cinnabon]

Dear All,
We had friends over recently and their little girl needed a nappy change. The Mum started to change her on our sofa in front of all of us! I asked her to change her baby upstairs and she refused saying that on eday I will have my own kids so I have to get used to the smell of poo. Am I right to be upset by this? Was she right to change the pooey nappy in front of everyone and on my leather sofas?
Many thanks in advance

[redcrx]

lol i wouldnt dream of doing it in a friends lounge without asking, even if they have babys same age.

[4getmenot]

Well she could have asked but I wouldnt be annoyed if I had been asked, my friends can change their babys nappies in my living room anytime, babies poo, part of life.

[Cinnabon]

Thanks for you ranswer, I wouldnt either for the sake of my childs privacy but I dont have my own kids yet so I find it hard to tell her anything.

[Cinnabon]

4get - I feel the same, if she would have asked I dont think it would be such an issue

[redcrx]

id happily change my baby on my mates lounge floor if they didnt mind though

[Cinnabon]

red - you are right its all about if people mind or not and giving them a choice in the first place

[redcrx]

yep. and lets be fair a babys poo is stinky, unless its your own child.
I hope they put a mat down on your sofa though!

[Cinnabon]

Red - No mat at all! The worst thing was we were all eating chocolate mouse at the time! I think I wouldnt have minded so much if they changed her in the corner of the sitting room or in the hallway but this was in full view.
I suppose im lucky they even changed her. The baby was leaking urine once which they were aware of and I had to ask them to change her because she was leaking.

[Cinnabon]

Sorry :-) we were eating chocolate moose not mouse!!!
my bad spelling

[redcrx]

eeewwwwwww. thats just gross.
Id be furious with anyone who put me off my chocolate mousse too!

yuk, i think my little one knows what we are taking about, im off to change her on next door neighbours dining table :)

[Cinnabon]

Red - LOL - remember to wave the nappy around the living room for a while!!

[pips1]

Friend or no friend, that is totally bad manners, especially if you were all eating - and not to use a mat!!! I would have told her to leave the room, and when she said that you would have babies one day and you should get used to it, I would have said that at least I would know to show some respect. We all love babies, and of course they have to poo, but your own child's smell is acceptable to you, but not so to others.

[redcrx]

cinnabon, there was no way i was waving that nappy anywhere, it even made me gag and i love the stinky little babe

[Cinnabon]

Pip - thanks for your answer. I think you are right in what you say about the smell. I also think that the childs privacy is so important.

[Cinnabon]

Red - hehehee

[andy-hughes]

That is such bad manners!

Your 'friend' showed a lack of respect for you, your home, your friends, and her own child.

She compunded her lack of manners by trying to infer that you should not object on the basis of some potential future situation - which will be yours to deal with when it happens.

Yes, you will have your own children one day - and would she like a reminder of how she conceived hers - you and your partner on her settee???

I wouldn't be in a hurry to invite her round again.

[natalie_1982]

I must be the only one, although I appreciate everyone's comments, who can't really see the problem. Yes, it would be courteous to ask, but she didn't, and in all honesty I probably wouldn't have even thought about asking either! Not because I don't care about or respect your feelings, but because I just wouldn't even think to; changing a bum is something I don't think about, and just another thing to do like taking a dirty cup out to the kitchen or something.

I'm sorry if that makes me ill mannered, but it certainly wouldn't, and never has, bothered me when friends have changed their babes round my house. The only thing I find odd, and only because it tickles me cos I'm silly, is when babes are being potty trained and you are outside (like a park or somewhere) and the poor ****** hsa to sit on the pot in front of everyone!

However, I don't think it was very kind of her to mention about you having to get used to it, I find that tantamount to "You wouldn't understand as you haven't got your own kids", and is patronising and downright rude.

[Nannyjillx2]

I wouldn't expect my daughter to change my grandson on my settee without a changing mat and especially if we were eating. GROSS Might be her home from home but she wouldn't think of doing that.

Find it odd that she would change her child on her own settee without a changng mat beware if you go round there you don't know what you might sit on.

[natalie_1982]

That's a good point I didn't mention - I always use a mat, I have a travel mat and I think the chocolate mousse would have prodded me into asking if it was ok to change. But if we were just having a cup of ea (without chocolate biscuits lol), I think I would go ahead and change babe without thinking - sorry!

[gbradfield]

i gotta say i kind of agree with natalie 1982. i have a 1 year old and i wouldnt think twice about changing her nappy, i mean whats the alternitive, making your child sit in his .......you know what! lol . However i think it was ill mannered to do it when you were all eating, thats just rude!