Teenage Pregnancy

[one_mad_cow]

I am a pregnant teenager and quite frankly I'm sick of the dirty looks I get from people on the street.  Why do so many people judge on how good a parent you will be by the years you have been alive?  I have a good, stable job, a steady boyfriend and my own house.  NOT council.  Why is it so important to people to look down upon the next generation?

[Oneeyedvic]

Ginger 69 - from the questions you have asked regarding finances in Money & finance, I suspect that your above post is not 100% accurate.

[smudge]

Well said Hamish!

[one_mad_cow]

oneeyedvic you do like to make assumptions don't you?  So I have been with my boyfriend for 18 months, you are assuming that I have only just turned 17....  I am almost 18, I got with my boyfriend just before my 16th birthday and we slept together well... when I was legal, I refuse to explain myself to you, obviously you like to discriminate just as much as everyone else, try and think before you post next time and never "assume" until it happens to you ;)

[Oneeyedvic]

One_mad_cow - I (like everyone who has posted here) have to make assumptions as none of know the full facts - I just choose to say what my assumptions are, which I would have thought makes me better.

Still confused though, as if you are "just about to turn 18" and have been with your boyfriend for 18 months, you cannot have been more than 15 1/2 when you first started going out with him. So going out with him "just before your 16th Birthday" is a strange thing to say.

You have also not mentioned anything about 'your' house or your job security etc which I pointed out.

You have asked a question, and have asked for answers. I am simply clarifying the situation before answering blindly. Surely you wouldn't want anyone to make a judgement without knowing the full facts?

Surely I am not discriminating by asking pertinent questions?

And I do think before I post.

[one_mad_cow]

If I was 15 and a half then we would have been together for 2 years now... there is no law about having a boyfriend at the tender age of 15 is there?  I shall have to enquire about that one with him, he is after all a police officer.  My house is rented yes, therefore not my "own" but it's where I live and my current address which pretty much makes it my home.  If this wasn't a steady job then they wouldn't have agreed to let me back after maternity leave, would they?  If you don't like the things I say, don't get involved =)  there are plenty more threads for you to involve yourself and pessimistic views in.

As for the people that have supported me in this, you'll all be glad to know that baby is fine, I had my scan yesterday and baby is 13cms already!  Explains why my bump is so big =P  Got my next scan on 4th April so guess the sex if you like, I'm going to find out =)

[Oneeyedvic]

one_mad_cow

Firstly, congratulations, I hope the baby continues to be healthy.

Secondly, I would just like to pint out, that all I have done is ask questions about your postings. I have not looked down on you at any stage, just purely asked for clarification as (to my mind) things were not clear.

Thirdly, are you really asking questions but not listening to anyone you don't agree with - if so, what's the point is asking a question?

And finally, I sincerely wish you all the best in the future. Things will be hard for you (perhaps more so because of your age) and I hope that you don't prejudge people in the same way that you don't want judging yourself.

[smudge]

one_mad_cow - I am so pleased the scan showed that your baby is growing well. Look after yourself -x-

[justincase]

On mad cow.  I feel very sorry for you; I personally think you are crying out for sympathy from others.  If you were that pleased to be pregnant you wouldn�t give a dam what others thought.  Also you say your going out with a policeman. How long has he been a policeman and what the hell was he doing going out with a 15 year old.  I can only assume he has JUST become a policeman. Or your lying.   I would like to know what is wrong with all these teenagers who are becoming pregnant. Try using contraception in the future.

[Oneeyedvic]

justincase - as one_mad_cow has explained (if you bothered reading any of the already answered questions rather than just the last few) is that she has used contraception - no contraception is 100% - FACT.

If her boyfriend has just become a policeman (is of a similar age -18 - to onemadcow, then there really is no problem)

Is she crying out for sympathy - possibly, possibly not. Maybe she just wanted to know what other poeple's opinion was - this is what everybody does every day. I get changed in themornings and put on a suit as I want people to look at me in a certain way - this is not a cry for help - it is just getting poeple to make certain prejudgements about me.

Would you take Legal opinion from someone you had never met before and was dressed like a tramp - or would you rather trust someone in a suit and tie. Appearances do matter - and I think that this is where one_mad_cow is coming from.

[one_mad_cow]

justincase if you do not like the way I handle things then please stop posting in my thread =)

[justincase]

First of all oneeyedvic, this isn�t your post so stay out of it.  I have read the other post and I see that she says she used injections and used condoms and then fell pregnant, This I do not believe at all.  You say her boyfriend is of similar age 18 and is a policeman. You can only begin to apply at 18 and half so I don�t think he is a policman yet, he may be thinking about it.  Also one mad cow you posted a question as to which anyone can post an answer to,  Well I am, and this is my opinion and I�m sorry but I am one of those people that give pregnant teenagers dirty looks.

[dirtyharriet]

Justincase, you are, of course entitled to your own view. However to make such antagonistic and opiniated responses really doesn't show you in a very favourable light.

I couldn't give a flying toss whether you approve of one mad cow's pregnancy or not, there is no need to treat her with such contempt.

[justincase]

Ok maybe I was a bit hard. I apologise. I live in area where there are so many pregnant teenagers and so many of them believe that a baby will solve all their problems, i.e. they will get a house and money. Also so many of them sleep around and then they fall pregnant and wonder why.    

[one_mad_cow]

justincase my boyfriend is actually 22 and is in his 4th year as an officer.  Age is just a number at the end of the day and as long as we're happy that's all that matters to me, I posted this to see why people gave such dirty looks to us.  Maybe one day it could happen to your children, I did not purposely get pregnant, I wanted a strong marriage and a bit more age to go with my children but when it actually happens to you, things change.  Yes I am a teenager, what if I was 20? I wouldn't be a teenager, so probably not get as much grief off shallow minded people like yourself.

I really couldn't care less if you believe I was on the pill or not, people's body's work in different ways, we don't all run like clockwork and have everything perfect and "the way it should be".  At the end of the day, you just come here to look down upon people, look at your own life and see what makes you such a horrible person, you'd be surprised what you find when you come to terms with things =)

[Hamish]

this is the 65th posting here. I am amazed how many it has recieved. Is this an idication of how mixed up society is on teanage pregnancy or just on discrimanation?

[justincase]

Onemadcow I apologised to you and was going to leave you alone however after your last post and your insults towards me I feel I can�t.  Your boyfriend is 22 so when he was twenty he was going out with a 15 year old? What the hell is wrong with him, he should be thrown of the force. He seems as messed up as you are.  Also you said you were having injections and now you say you were on the pill.  Before you start lying to everyone you should really think your lies threw, they would sound more convincing.  I am now gong to leave this post cause I have wasted enough time on you.  I feel incredibly sorry for you and your unborn child.  Get help there are many good councillors out there. 

[one_mad_cow]

Well don't we know that justincase is a man.  The Depo injection is also referred to as the pill... people call it the pill injection =)

Yes I started seeing my boyfriend when I was 15 but we didn't have sex until I was almost 17... therefore there is nothing wrong with when our relationship started.

One good thing came from my insults, he now know how it feels to have someone look down at you =)

[one_mad_cow]

When does this sickness go away?  Anyone? It's making me really grouchy and I don't like being nasty =(

[superstarsar]

Hm Kimberley, you fell pregnant as a result of a 2 week fling, or a 3 night stand depending upon the biological father of your child which you refuse to prove. You were not with the dad for 18 months because I was with one of the lads involved for months before. You do live in a council flat and your child has no father. I do not call that a quality life. And you also admited you were not using protection.