Same as carmalee, im not going back over 10 pages worth, but just to stick up for sqad slightly, im another in the "if you grossly missbehave, you'll get a smack" brigade.
Mini Boo is now 5, nd i like to think she's a normal, healthy, well behaved child most of the times. Sure she throws tantrums and pushes her luck, but when warned she'll calm down. If she pushes it too far though, she will get a smack, and i frankly don't give a damn how others see this to be honest.
9 times out of 10, the threat of a smacked bottom or legs is enough to make her behave, but if not, she knows what will happen.
I also brought up elder Mini Boo (who's now 22) exactly the same, and apart from the normal teen problems, again I never had that much of an issue with her. She did and still does respect both myself and Mr Boo. We certainly had none of the tantrums from her as a 9 year old that onlyme is describing, and I can't help thinking it's because we didn't pander to her whims and used the softly softly approach that now seems to be the norm.