This is just a cry for help!!!

[onlyme26]

hello i think im posting this for reassurance you cant give me but im doing it anyway!!!

im worried about my 20 week scan :o( i have it next week and ill be 21 weeks!! my boyfriend is really really excited, but i cant let my self feel excited as im so scared
i love my baby, i can feel him/her moving around and feel them getting bigger, i want my baby to be ok and healthy
dont get me wrong i think im strong minded and if for example they told me the baby had downs or maybe a disability it wouldnt change my love for the baby one bit, i cant wait to see my baby and hold them and love and care for them, but what i worry about is if they tell me the baby has a bad heart or kidneys havent grown properly, what if the baby is really ill and chances are slim for survival, how do i cope with that? :o(

are there any circumstances where they can make you have a termination due to the babys health?? i dont want to do that, i cant do that :o(

cant help but worry, is there anyone out there been through this or heard the worst at their scan, how did you deal with it??

[whiskeysheri]

Woah! That's scary, 4get! So am I! My mum is a twin, her grandma was a twin (and so on) and my cousin had twins a couple of years ago. I'm not going to jinx myself further... :)

[myselfness]

i agree with everyone that people fret at scans- my pregnancy was unplanned and i had been on medication for al ong time beforehand (and the early months when i didnt know) so woried the whole time i was pregnant, i now have a beautiful 3 week old baby girl who is completly healthy.
its easier said then done to not worry but in reality its only a percentage of babies that are born with defects- the vast majority are fine

however if it does turn out theres something wrong then you will deal with it. You seem so adament you couldnt have it terminated that you would have the baby and even if it only had a short life expectency you can use that time to fully enjoy your baby. Take every moment for what it is- a blessing! and be aware that even people with short ife expectencies is only an estimate, they'll never know for certain.