Since hitting my mid thirties, my sex drive has all but diminished and although when in a new relationship, it's quite rampant for a while, the desire soon wanes.
I'm now pregnant, surprisingly so, as in the last year, we haven't exactly been like rabbits. Since becoming pregnant, I have absolutely no interest in sex. My Fiance, hoped that I would turn into a raving Nympho in my second Trimester, as that is what he has read, but there has been no change.
He is a very passionate person and is always up for it, but since I became pregnant, we have had sex 1.5 times and I have no desire to do it again, I can't bear to be touched and find it all very irritating.
Does anyone else feel like I do? Did your sex drive return after having your baby, or did the situation worsen?
That's exactly true ummm hence I said that communicaiton is key. To be honest I have quite a high natural sex drive, but if a woman loved me, affectionately, openly and with some obvious enthusiasm then my NEED for sex would be less than if she was a frigid passionless creature who was out of touch with her own feelings and couldn't communicate. I think problems arise most when sex is the only form of affection shown.
"what a load of b0llocks sqad and fluffyteddy.." Boo, you said that today, now you refer to fluffy as yesterday......confused.
tamborine
"sqad617....that's an irresponsible diagnosis from a professional! What if OH returns with VD or worse?" He might and they do...why do you think incidence of STD's has shot up?
Sqad - What to men do when they are not getting any from their ' frigid' wives? maybe they come on this site and try desperately to flirt with female users..
I've got two children, have been with my partner for 16 years and can honestly say things are better than they've ever been. Yes there have been dips in my sex drive but during these times my husband has been happy to take care of himself because the rest of our relationship has always been strong and he still got plenty of affection and reassurance so he never felt unloved.It was his support and lack of pressure during these times that lead to me leaping on him again after relatively short periods of not feeling like it. I'm not saying it was always easy for him but the whole relationship was important to him , not just the sex and he knew that if he just went off and got it wherever he could he could have lost his family.
tanborine, ummm and Boo.....I would like you to spend 2days ina Genito-Urinary STD dept and see the types of clients that come in. Your husband/partner could be one of them an you would never know. It is not necessarily for the promiscuous, but the one night only man seems to be at risk.