Vaginal bleeding and your period. difference??

[Johnsonn5]

During the first week of November last year, I was very sick so my boyfriend at the time came over to take care of me. I am very against having sex before marriage and he knows that, and I thought he respected that. So I took Nyquil and snuggled up to watch a movie and fell asleep. I woke up with my pants down and him on top of me. He had raped me and I was completely powerless. I am sooo scared I'm pregnant right now. I didn't tell anyone because when I was younger I was sexually abused by my grandpa and I didn't want to see my family go through that again. I regret it so much now. But this is probablly a really stupid and awkward question, but I'm confused on the difference between vaginal bleeding and your period. Does it occur around the time your period is supposed to? Ive had bleeding either a week late or a few days before I would be scheduled to have my period since it happened. But i'm still terrified I'm pregnant. I just want some peace of mind about this so I can begin to heal and move on with my life. I've taken two pregnancy tests and they were negative but I still don't know. Please help!!!

[northernmonkey]

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Firstly, I am very sorry to read what you have been through and I hope that at end of reading this you are able to find it of some use.
To start off with the bleeding - I would suggest that to get the best possible and the most accurate advice, you visit your GP or the nurse at your Doctors. The reason I say this is because, not only are the able to give you a professional examination, they can also give you another pregnancy Test if you would like but if you've had a period in Dec-March then I do not think that you are pregnant but as I say I would very much say that the best advice would be only from your either your Nurse/GP or you can ring 0845 direct and just ask very simply about the Bleeding, which if you feel would be better for you but they do ask for your name/address only to bring up details for a Doctor/Nurse and are confidential so don't please feel that giving your Name ect be something that prevents you from seeking advice.

[northernmonkey]

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Now, your b/f .... I am not going to say what I think of him because it's not relevant but I know that you have said you are not wanting to put your family through the worry ect however I am sure they would want you to report the incident to the Police, and this can be dealt and hopefully / high chance that he will get a custodial sentence of a minimum 2 years even though it's nothing what many would see as a sentence that warrants the crime at least you know that he is paying the consequences in one way. And he will also have that on his head for the remainder of his life, preventing him from doing so many things in life. I know that you most probably think that I can say this but for you to go and report it to the Police is difficult and no words can describe how difficult, well, Yeah maybe you would be right but I think that your family would appreciate knowing and being able to support you and if you go to Police then you are not going alone and will always be able to speak with somebody at the times that you feel the need to. I'd also like to maybe suggest, going to see somebody that can support you and have the ability to be there for you to confide in things like this, and nobody else will ever find out. Take care of yourself and hopefully hear back from you soon

[k8bailey]

Great advice by northernmonkey, I'm also sory to hear about what you've been through, but please do go and see a doctor or perhaps a GUM clininc would also be able to help. I don't want to upset or scare you further but have you considered STI screening? Either your GP or the GUM clinic would be able to arrange this for you and of course it would be totally confidential.

[ummmm]

I think you should report him. He's a rapist...

[northernmonkey]

Thank you K8.

[Sqad]

Johnson:

It is extremely unlikely that you are pregnant.

Vaginal bleeding differs from a period in that it occurs at non period times and is unlike a normal period in the intensity of bleeding and the length of time it occurs. Vaginal bleeding may also occur after intercourse.
Good advice by northernmonkey....go to see your GP.

Now, the "alleged rape"....be very careful and think before you report this:

4months ago, you invite your boyfriend to stay over, you cuddle up, got to sleep and wake up to find you have been raped.
He will say that he didn't rape you, it was consented intercourse. Why wait 4 months to report him? No signs of rape now.You invited him over.
These are points that will be considered.

Good luck.

[ummmm]

Nyquil....I presumed it was some kind of sleeping tablet. It's not.....did you not wake up at all?

[northernmonkey]

Sqad - What you say about the ex-boyfriend denying the Rape is likely, but It need's to be reported to the Police and will be investigated in the most sensitive manner, and will be dealt with by a Select team of Officers whom are experienced in treating all Victims with a great deal of Sensitivity during a time which is already very difficult to say the least. There is also a very high amount of support which is offered and all the necessary precautions and safety measures need to be taken should there be any risk or signs of danger then will be done so without hesitation and immediately

[ummmm]

And they keep it on file now after the Ian Huntley fiasco...

[jno]

northern monkey, I think what Sqad is suggesting - and I agree - is that this case is highly unlikely ever to come to court, so Johnsonn should consider first whether she wants the aggravation of going to the police at all. It would quite likely stress her out to no purpose.

She'd be totally within her rights to ignore this advice, and she's been done wrong, but it may be that invoking the law would not help to heal her. I think she's right to concentrate ont he medical aspects.

[ummmm]

But how would she feel if he raped someone else?

[northernmonkey]

I don't think that any advice that has been said by myself or anybody else that advises to report to Police should NOT be ignored. But - we could argue about this all day, but its upto Johnson to read what's been suggested and maybe it will help decide on what to do .....I hope so.

[jno]

ummmm, I don't know; I'm just thinking she's entitled to take the course that offers her least trouble and not feel responsible for what he may do in the future. But as northernmonkey says she can read the advice offered here and decide what's best for her.

[BeaverDiva]

You refer to him as your boyfriend, not your ex-boyfriend, and you also state that he "knows" your views on sex before marriage (present tense). Please put our minds at rest that you are not still seeing this rapist!

As far as the bleeding is concerned, I think you've already received excellent advice above. Reporting the incident to the Police is of course a matter for you to decide, and as you didn't ask about that, I'll leave it.

[ummmm]

jno...very true.

[northernmonkey]

Very top "my boyfriend at the time" ----

[Sqad]

We keep calling him the "rapist".

Has anybody on this thread any evidence that rape took place?

[daffy654]

The op says in her post that he had raped her, she didn't consent so that is rape in the eyes of the law.

[crisgal]

what is 'nyquil'?

[daffy654]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/NyQuil