Pregnancy after miscarriage

[divadobs]

Is it true you are more fertile after a m/c? I know everyone's different but what is the average time it took to catch again afterwards if you suffered from m/c previously?

[Sqad]

No it is not true that you are more fertile after a miscarriage.

The is no "average"time to become pregnant again following a miscarriage.

[divadobs]

Thanks Sqad. It's just from reading the internet and also from friends / family who have had m/c they seemed to have caught again straight away. Seemed a little more common than simple co-incidence. Just wondered if anyone else out there has experienced similar that's all.

[jb190281]

I think it's important to remember the emotional impact of a miscarriage - I didn't want my partner near me for a while, not sexually anyway. I think it's recommended to get a regular cycle back on track also.
but, I must add, I fell pregnant 3 months after my miscarriage, and here I am, 4 months pregnant and fingers crossed for a successful pregnancy.
everyone is different, and if you're asking for personal reasons, you'll know when the time is right. good luck!

[annie0000]

Not sure about after a miscarriage diva, but we tried for a baby for over 2 years before I got pregnant - we figured on a two year gap between kids, so after my son was born, we didn't use any protection - given that I had a section after a 3 day labour and lost a litre and a half of blood, i was not up for resuming marital relations for a few weeks, but I now have 2 boys 13 months apart. Seems to me like once my body had worked out that it could get pregnant, it just did it again. Not very scientific I know sqad, but sometimes these things are all in the mind, so if you believe that you will get pregnant faster, maybe you will.

[sara3]

I fell pregnant very quickly after a miscarriage

[k8bailey]

It's recommended that you have at least one 'normal' period before trying again, so that the midwife etc will be able to work out dates, but I've also heard of increased fertility after birth or miscarriage.

I'm asuming that you didn't get the news you were hoping for last week? if I'm right, I'm really sorry, take care of yourself.

[bednobs]

hi, as you probably have read, i have just had a stillbirth. My midwife came round the other day and was banging on and on about contraception because "you are more fertile afterwards"
don't see how i could be less fertile to be honest, as it took me 9 years to get pregnant in the first place

[B00]

Bednobs- didn't want to make a new post, but ive been wondering how you are?

[bednobs]

rubbish really B00. I keep thinking things might be getting a little better then having a plummet. At least i don't feel like i want to join her all the time now, just sometimes. I have mainly been in the house because i am petrified of meeting someone i know if i go out, or that the neighbours will talk to me. This even extends to putting the washing out. we are having the funeral tomorrow and i keep thinking about it and crying. I am scared i wont be able to say anything (i have a poem to read) and every time i think of mr B carrying her coffin to the grave it makes me feel so broken that it feels like things will never feel better.
Because she was born at nearly 29 weeks i am entitled to maternity leave, so have asked for 7 months in the hope that i can get my hip and knee replaced in that time so i don't have to take more sick leave. Mr b is going back to work on Monday and i do worry that we will go our seperate ways in grief - that he will feel like things are getting back to normal, but i will be sitting around moping and crying (although having said that i just can't imagine going back to work at the moment) I think he is dreading it.
We have an appointment witht he obs in about 1 month where we might get some answers (we declined a PM but they sent the placenta off for examination) but tbh i doubt we will.
Just to let you know, my mum asked about the funeral but when i said she couldn't come she told me she was relieved.
Thanks for asking and sorry divabobs :)

[B00]

Apologies from me too Divadobs, but I didn't want to make a new post to Bednobs about this, hope you don't mind me using yours so to speak.

I can't give any words of comfort re the funeral Bednobs, I'm not going to lie to you, it will tear you both apart going through it. Hopefully though, afterwards you may be able to slowly heal- the pair of you.

My offer of emailing is still on offer if you'd like [e-mail] as i've sort of been where you are, albeit it being my grandsons and not a child of mine.

Thinking of you, and i hope that you and and Mr B get through the funeral tomorrow....the best way you can.

God bless

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[lardhelmet]

Bednobs - you have my utmost sympathies. I had to bury my son who was born 9-weeks prematurely and only lived for 10 days. So my thoughts are with you for tomorrow and during your recovery.

[bednobs]

thanks LH, it just sucks doesn't it?
It feels so selfish to wallow in misery but it's all i want to do :(

[sara3]

my heart goes out to all of you girlies xx

[karenmac60]

Bednobs, through all of your posts you have never struck me as selfish or wallowing. Right from the start your main concerns were your husband and daughter and you appear to have handled yourself with dignity throughout. You have shown yourself to be a very loving and compassionate person, not once have you said 'why me' or 'poor me', your worry has been letting others down and being close to your husband and if you are ever fortunate enough to be able to have another child, he/she will be very lucky to have you as a mother. Good luck to you for tomorrow x

[boxtops]

Bednobs (and sorry again to divadobs) - we'll be thinking of you tomorrow, it'll be a hard day for you and Mr B - but we're here if you want to talk afterwards, and if you don't ,we'll understand - entirely. ♥
Re the OP - I too think that's untrue, unless they mean you don't know exactly when you're next ovulating because your cycle needs to settle down again, so your timing might be risky?

[bednobs]

thanks so much everyone and again sorry to diva