Would it be really cheeky to invite further children now?

[tigwig]

Right it's my daughter's 7th birthday in June the weekend following the spring bank hols before they are back at school. She wanted to invite loads of her class mates and I said it would be too many so told her to select some instead. Now the problem is out of the 10 she invited, 6 have said they cant come! Most are away with it being that time of year. She is taking a few cousins but so far there will only be 6 including her and she is upset and I feel sorry for her and wish I'd never bothered arranging a party.
Today I reminded one of the mums who hasnt replied yet and she didnt know anything about it so her daughter has obviously lost the invite. I have printed another one out and it got me thinking shall I just do a few more and invite others who she originally wanted or would it be stupid to be offering them a 2nd choice invite?!

[pretty_snowdrop]

yes it is fine. She wanted them to go originally so they are not really second choice.

[chrissa1]

No, go for it. The only thing I was wondering was, if the ones who Were invited would have told the others and they'd worked out that they weren't her 1st choice. Are 7 year olds savvy like that?

[tigwig]

I'm not sure to be honest! Thats what I was thinking. I think I will actually give a few more out, they are home made invitations now though not the original ones. I will make the excuse that some have got lost!

[momcj]

I would definatel do it. i think arranging kids parties are very stressful, of course you would like to invite whole class( or most) but its just not practical, they cost a bomb!! when i was arranging me daughters 6th i found out that the teacher did lose half the invites, so i wrote out more, adding a couple etc, cos we had some saying they cant come. I went direct to parents and said have you had an invite, and when they said no gave them other and explained teacher has lost some!!was fine.

[feona]

Yeah! Do invite her friends that she originally wanted, ask their mums to help you out by sending their kids to your daughter's birthday party. At least you could do this to make her feel great otherwise she will be broken from inside.

[sara3]

heaven forbid.. you wouldn't want her feeling broken from inside, tigwig.

[chris1957au]

YES YES YES YES YES YES

[redcrx]

will you be inviting all the rest of the class? because if you say some invites got lost and parents talk to each other, what will you say to those who arent invited if they ask if they may have a missing invite?

[tigwig]

I certainly wouldnt want her feeling broken no! Well its done now, I sent her today with 8 other invites. She named 6 others and has 2 spare so she can choose when shes at school. She isnt inviting the rest of the class and it's a mixed year 1 & 2 class anyway so obviously most of who arent invited are the younger ones. To be honest if parents want to gossip and/or moan about it I dont really care! It's her choice. I'm not sure if they would anyway. I think its pathetic that some mums have to invite certain children to parties depending on who is in their clique. I guess there is a few like that and I'm totally independent and its their problem not mine lol.

[redcrx]

if you didnt care what any of them thought then you wouldnt really have asked the question would you?
hope the next invites are all accepted.

[Cowtipper]

I'd ask each child that rsvp'd to invite a friend. That makes each invite first choice.

[tigwig]

Good point red :) although really I meant I didnt care if they gossip about me in the playground! I suppose its the kids I dont want to be upset. Anyway, one more can come at least and I think I've gone OTT now which will totally serve me right! If they all come there will be 18 which is rather more than I planned, whoops!

[smoochiegal]

I think you're worrying too much about it. For the last cpl of yrs my son has invited ppl to the cinema and then for a bite to eat. I always ask parents if they've received the invites and act surprised when they say no... ofcourse, I know they haven't because I never did them one haha. People know you can't invite the whole class, it is too expensive and how many people are going to stay and help you look after the kids! Generally people are understanding, I don't think they'll be gossiping, I think you're a bit paranoid. Yeah, it's cheeky sending out more invites but as long as your child has a good time that's all that matters

[yogi-bear]

Hi tigwig.

The more children that come to your daughters 7th Birthday party, the more she'll enjoy it in my opinion.
As she wanted more to come originally, i would send out more invites to those that were left out of the first wave.
We've done that before with our four children many times........e.g......some get chosen for a bowling or cinema party, but cant make it........ask the next good friends they have till the numbers are right.

Also...............more prezzies too. :0)

Hope she has a special day come June, tigs x

[Old_Geezer]

It seems to me that June is far enough away not to be worried about sending new invitations out now. Since you have received definite responses saying they will not be there, I see no reason not to invite others. But being tactful, it may be wise not to say they were second choices :-D i.e Don't start apologising for the late invite, as it isn't late.