Another teenage pal of my son

[albaqwerty]

has become a daddy.

Mum and baby girl are fine (Wee soul was 4 1/2 lbs)

There's worse things than a baby so I thought some good news might be welcomed

(If teenagers becoming parents are good news, babies having babiesIMO)

[ttfn]

Hi alba x Did you see this earlier?

http://www.dailymail....y-John-granny-30.html

Glad OH is doing better after his op, btw ;)

[sherrardk]

I saw something in a newspaper earlier about a 29 year being proud of his 14 year old daughter making him a granddad!

[albaqwerty]

many thanks ttfn


Blooming norah, that is seriously babies having babies.I've told my sons to keep it zipped, thank you very much. Older one said I wear button flies mum, so keep it buttoned then was the reply.

How can a 30 yearold be proud of 14 year old daughter.?? Below 16 it's illegal. Don't get me started, her body is still growing, what damage has she done to her body let alone her education and so on and so forth?

[ttfn]

If they have not already, I have no doubt they will make it to the JK show, alba :(

[DTCwordfan]

brilliant, imagine being great great granny or grandpa as early as 60!!!

You are as young as you feel....in more ways than one.

[albaqwerty]

I know I'm being mean and grand-parents spend a lot of money on their grand-children anyway, but to expect them to be parents as well is conflicting my thoughts.

When and where do 14 -17 year olds get jobs to support their children?

(Other than going on JK for some money I s'pose)

I really am conflicted about the whole thing.

[welshlibranr]

my son and his then girlfriend, then wife made me a nanny at 39!.....I was not amused at first!....but enjoyed my grandaughter so much, then came the second one, I was still just over 40!.......had loads of energy, and enjoyed them so much!.......have 2 grandsons now too!.....they are 4 and 5 years old, and I enjoy them lots too, but am now 60!.......it's great, but much harder work, but we still have lots of fun!......

[albaqwerty]

My SIL became a nanny at 47 and like you, was shocked, but her daughter has now married the then boyfriend, and is expecting child number 3. All is good in their world which is nice to hear.

[welshlibranr]

Oh that's great alba, I don't regret any of ours, they brought so much joy, but being a Nanny at 39 was a huge shock!...

[starone]

I agree that it is much too young. They have not had time to do anything at all and now are tied to a baby. Two nieces of mine ( the horrible side of the family) had children at 13. I pretend I don't know them (yes I know it is horrible of me). I cannot understand why the police don't do something about it. It is against the law isn't it? I suppose they have so much else to do that a thing like this is ignored. The other thing I find incomprehensible about it is that there are so many ways of avoiding it nowadays - why don't they use something or other. Does this mean they are ignorant or they want a baby? A doll would be more appropriate.

[welshlibranr]

know what you mean star, not sure really, I think they do know the risk of becoming pregnant, and some do think they want a baby ( until it arrives, and they realise that it's hard work!) and some others think that it won't happen to them!...........and then it does!.....niave in both cases, but they're young and so often niave too!.......

[albaqwerty]

I sometimes wonder if they think they are in a rocky relationship a child will bring them together.

So often it drives them further apart.

[welshlibranr]

yes alba, that may be the case too!........And, yes if the relationship is rocky then it certainly does drive them apart!...but they're young and inexperienced too, and that's why they think that way sadly!.........

[starone]

I gave up on being a grandma - they were too money motivated but they gave me a surprise when I was 60 and then another one three years later and my daughter had her one and only at 37. So I did get three eventually - all boys. I would have liked several, but what can you do? Can't force them to have them. My mother was 40 when she became a grandmother and four years later had another one of her own. My brother was an uncle as soon as he was born. I suppose everyone is different and have their own ideas on the situation. The baby in the clip ttfn, is absolutely gorgeous isn't it.

[albaqwerty]

I'm not conflicted anymore:D

The joys of grand-children (for whom I might have to wait for many years) will be welcomed. (They would be anyway even if it was in the next year or two)

[NOX]

I'm just wondering what everybody thinks the man ought to say to his 14 year old pregnant daughter. That he's ashamed of her and the baby? That'd help a lot wouldn't it? Whilst having a baby at 14 is anything but ideal, once she's pregnant all you can do is the support the wee girl and tell her that you love her and respect her, the whole damned world will be doing quite enough to make her feel like a stupid little cheap tart whose got no brains and made a monumental mistake because she's too thick and chavvy to know what she's doing etc which hardly sets her up to be a good mother and have a happy time with her wee one which is all anyone ought to be concerned about. They seem to have their heads screwed on as a family and have a support structure in place to help her finish school and she has aspirations to better herself and do the right thing, so no point crying over spilled milk.
Congratulations to your son's friend and his gf Alba, I hope things continue to go well for them.

[whiskeryron]

Whatever next? Granny & G/Daughter at the same school.The mind boggles.
Ron.

[Craftypig]

Whilst not condemning or condoning the situation, there was a time when having children at such a young age was the norm. Its only people attitudes that have changed not the human body.

[Mosaic]

Sheesh - Starbuck, my mum was 40 when she had me......
I'm now mid 50s and not a grandparent yet, but what will be will be.....
4.5lbs seems small to me, best of my wishes to the wee scrap.
'Teenage' covers a huge spectrum of emotional and physical maturity and just being chronologically young doesn't make you immature.
There are many things worse than a baby. One of them is poverty.

[starone]

Certainly is mosaic. My mother, long gone now, always said when poverty comes through the window, love flies out the door!
I also agree with NOX - any one as young as this will need lots of loving care. What's done, is done and cannot be undone, so get on with it and look after the dear little soul.