OG, was chatting to a mum (single on benefits) at the school gate a few months back. Her son was about to turn 7 at which point the rules for her getting her benefits changed from auto payments into her bank to her having to sign on fortnightly and having to prove she was job searching. She was moaning on and on about the petrol it cost to get there (yes, she can afford a car) and the fact that every 2 weeks she had to actually make the effort to get to town, that she had to apply for jobs now. She went on to say how she deliberately applied for work she new she would not even get in interview for because of lack of qualifications and experience.
I stood looking at her and listening, letting her dig that hole deeper and deeper
I then turned to her and said 'And why not'?
She was struck dumb
You are exactly right! Raise em that way and they'll think that way - feeloaders