House is hotel for son's mates...

[Smowball]

Son is 12. Since he started secondary school his friends are over most weekends, lots of sleepovers.......but the favour is never returned. Its not to do with my son personally as he has never even met their parents, but im getting a bit fed up with it. They drink everything in the fridge, break flowers in the garden playing footie, I cant go out when they are here aswoudnt leave a child thats not mine here with out an adult so am stuck in most of the time. I ask him why they never invite back, they say they will but dont actually do it. one came today, again!! I asked hm why he never returned the favour and he just shrugged and said "dunno". he is still here! Grrr

[Kassee]

Home-made cakes - no wonder they are always coming round !

[Dobi]

You know what? ...be glad the kids are coming to you, you will start to worry if you boy is forever at somebody else's place . My boys are now 20 & 23, they did the same thing, and I complained about the same stuff as you, don't push children away when they are coming to you , even if it's for the wrong reason!

[solvitquick]

Dear Smowball,
Ignore NOX's statement that 12 yr olds do not need baby-sitting - that is a red herring. Until they are 16 all children have to be supervised by a parent or guardian. To clarify with examples: (i) When your son gets to 15.5 yrs but fails to go to school you will be summoned to court and fined; (ii) if he shop-lifts its your fault 'cos you have failed in your supervisory/teaching legal responsiblity.
NOW TRANSLATE YOUR OWN RESPONSIBILTIES (am sure you and son live by your responsibilities) TO THE PARENTS OF YOUR SON'S FRIENDS.
They are abandoning their responsibilities for the safety, legal behaviour etc., using you as a mug. The kids have also learnt that you are a soft-touch. Are you sure that when you "invite" these kids to enter or stay-over that you are not acting as guardian? Time to revolutionise your life dear - NOW!