House is hotel for son's mates...

[Smowball]

Son is 12. Since he started secondary school his friends are over most weekends, lots of sleepovers.......but the favour is never returned. Its not to do with my son personally as he has never even met their parents, but im getting a bit fed up with it. They drink everything in the fridge, break flowers in the garden playing footie, I cant go out when they are here aswoudnt leave a child thats not mine here with out an adult so am stuck in most of the time. I ask him why they never invite back, they say they will but dont actually do it. one came today, again!! I asked hm why he never returned the favour and he just shrugged and said "dunno". he is still here! Grrr

[B00]

Send him home then! Then tell your son no more sleepovers are allowed at your house- simples!

[Kiki-frog]

Smow, your problem is that you are far too nice and kind!

[Traci66]

My daughter never actually wanted to stay at any of her friends houses, they always came to ours, she is now 26, still living at home and still doesn't like staying anywhere else.

[ummmm]

Anywhere close by where they can play out?

I always had my little cousins (same age as my kids) round mine. I'd just chuck them out in the end...

[Ratty2E]

You need to set up some rules. It's great for all these other kids parents getting an unpaid babysitter but what about you. Limit the number of sleepovers for a start and maybe make a rule that each kid can come over once then it's their turn and they don't come again till they've met their side of the deal.

[andy-hughes]

When you kist the reasons why you don't especially want your son's fridns to stay over, do you wonder why their parents don't want the same group of friends at their houses?

Someone is being taken advantage of here ...

[Smowball]

They have been playing in park in our road today but keep coming in and ouyt every 20 mins for drinks, toilet, then friend fell over and wanted a plaster!.....
One friends excuse is that my sons room is better, he has no annoying little brothers and sisters etc, thats not my prob!

[tonyav]

Sort it out Smow, don't let the kids walk all over you.

[chrissa1]

C'mon Smowball, womanup. Just say a big No to the sleepovers. It's not too hard.

[Lore]

Can you limit it to one day per week? That way he still gets to have his friends over, you get to say which night/day suits you best and you give him permission to go to their houses on a different night if he wants to see his friends more than once per week.

[Smowball]

have just sspoken to the friend, nicley. said this was unfair. had murderous look from son but hey ho. Friend says he will ask if son cam go over tomorrow so we shall see, but am not having any more over this weekend. Why should all their parents get a break? maybe i should charge for babysitting!! lol

[ummmm]

Do they live close enough for your son to knock for them?

[Lore]

Well done you! It's nice to be nice but it's not so nice when people start to take advantage!

[Smowball]

They aren't really walking distance but do-able by bike

[ummmm]

I'd say no to the sleep overs but yes to them coming over to play. Just don't buy any drinks/crisps/biscuits in the holidays. They can have water if they're thirsty. They can go home if they're hungry.

[Smowball]

Am just waiting for someody to say it...............................

(No wonder Mr Smo is quiet lately!)

Yes me thinks a change is in order, this isnt a day camp.

[chrissa1]

Good for you Smow. Thinking back in time to when my kids were that age, (some 21 years ago), come 6 o'clock, it was, "Home time boys."

[EvianBaby]

It's your house. Tell him you don't want them round all the time. Why can't they go out somewhere and play?

[cathfromsaron]

i would phone the parents, and explain that their sons are most welcome, BUT you can't afford it all the time!

and anyway, they should only be eating and drinking what they are offered by you ...

perhaps welcome them alternate weekends to start?

[EvianBaby]

Sorry missed the park bit. Coming in for the odd drink is ok. Anything more... Go back to your own house you cheeky bugger.