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Male/female 'jobs'..
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I had a little discussion with my son yesterday, who said he's going to "live at home forever".
I asked him what about when he meets someone and gets married? He said "well she can live here too". I asked what about when they have children? He said "they can sleep in the spare room". Er ok.
He said "when I come home from work, I'll sit down with my laptop and look at the news. My wife can make my dinner, do the washing, iron my shirts, bath the kids and do the cleaning... and I'll be saying get me a beer".
I asked him, seriously, why he thinks a woman should so all of those jobs, and he said "that's what women do".
Now our household has always been fairly traditional. I didn't work for years, and was able to stay at home with the kids and be a housewife - which is obviously where my son gets his views from.
We had a bit of a laugh about it, but it got me thinking, how do you insure that your child doesn't turn into a replica of his sexist, chauvinistic father?
Just thinking about it, but I do pretty much everything for him. He's 11.
I asked him what about when he meets someone and gets married? He said "well she can live here too". I asked what about when they have children? He said "they can sleep in the spare room". Er ok.
He said "when I come home from work, I'll sit down with my laptop and look at the news. My wife can make my dinner, do the washing, iron my shirts, bath the kids and do the cleaning... and I'll be saying get me a beer".
I asked him, seriously, why he thinks a woman should so all of those jobs, and he said "that's what women do".
Now our household has always been fairly traditional. I didn't work for years, and was able to stay at home with the kids and be a housewife - which is obviously where my son gets his views from.
We had a bit of a laugh about it, but it got me thinking, how do you insure that your child doesn't turn into a replica of his sexist, chauvinistic father?
Just thinking about it, but I do pretty much everything for him. He's 11.
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.BM, you just reminded me of something. The shopping gets delivered on a Monday and I usually take it all out of the crates at the front door and then dump it in the hallway, so the home delivery guy isn't waiting around.
I said to my son, who was sat in the lounge playing on his DS, "can you just give me a quick hand with these bags please, and take them into the kitchen". His response "not really, I'm just doing this. It won't take you long if carry three at a time".
The delivery guy laughed. I was just embarrassed.
I said to my son, who was sat in the lounge playing on his DS, "can you just give me a quick hand with these bags please, and take them into the kitchen". His response "not really, I'm just doing this. It won't take you long if carry three at a time".
The delivery guy laughed. I was just embarrassed.
the males in the family have been waited on hand and foot, if you want change you have to implement it now. I have often heard that nonsense about well he works. but wives work too, in the home and often at work, so a double whammy. I can't be doing all that, my o/h was a whizz in the kitchen, and i never once thought it was my job or his job just ours.
are you divorced, if so not at all surprised. sorry if that sounds bit callous. the o/h was a good cook, and chief bottle washer, he wasn't too proud to do all those things and more. his parents were both hard working, diligent folk who taught their son well, so he was handy around the home as well as being a clever clogs.
My dad brought six of us alone, we were all responsible for our own beds and rooms, the rest of the house was on a rota, eg. Traci is on utility room, Darren on yard etc, this was changed on a daily basis so we all had to do everything including ironing, two of the children were boys who are now both very good with household chores.
>>how do you ensure that your child doesn't turn into a replica of his sexist, chauvinistic father?
By not doing everything for him, which you are in effect currently doing.
You are reinforcing the sterotype of the wife / mother who does everytyhing for their child / husband.
If he just wants to just throw his duvet on the bed then let him.
It is YOU who wants the bed made properly, not him. By doing it for him you are just making him realise that if he is "bad" a something a woman will come along and do it for him.
If his bedroom is a mess, then leave it. If he is happy to live in a messy bedroom then let him. Tidy it up for him and you are making him lazy and letting him believe a woman will do everything for him.
If he grows up sexist and chauvinistic you will have done your bit to encourage that.
By not doing everything for him, which you are in effect currently doing.
You are reinforcing the sterotype of the wife / mother who does everytyhing for their child / husband.
If he just wants to just throw his duvet on the bed then let him.
It is YOU who wants the bed made properly, not him. By doing it for him you are just making him realise that if he is "bad" a something a woman will come along and do it for him.
If his bedroom is a mess, then leave it. If he is happy to live in a messy bedroom then let him. Tidy it up for him and you are making him lazy and letting him believe a woman will do everything for him.
If he grows up sexist and chauvinistic you will have done your bit to encourage that.
VHG, excellent points, but I really do think he would just live in a complete mess if I let him. I will grit my teeth and give it a go though.... starting tomorrow :-)
Em, sorry, I was a bit confusing then wasn't I. I am married yes, just separated/not living together. I think my relationship status falls under: "It's complicated" :-)
Em, sorry, I was a bit confusing then wasn't I. I am married yes, just separated/not living together. I think my relationship status falls under: "It's complicated" :-)