Keeping A Death From The Family,feedback Plz.

[prendi]

My sister in law died a couple of weeks ago from cancer.The first I knew of it when I saw the obituary in the paper!!We have not visited my brother for a couple of years,just sent xmas cards etc.the rest of the family are the same,dont keep in touch etc,and they didn't know about her death either,til they saw it in the paper.apparently my sister in law didn't want my brother to tell any one about her illness or her death,but surely we should have been informed of her death if only to pay our respects,what do you think??

[Sparkles62]

My ex husband fell out with all of his family, I got on, and still get on with them all, still see them, visit, with my second hubby, who has been welcomed into the family.
When his sister died, I was called, and asked not to tell him as he was not welcome at the funeral.
I went to the funeral, checked with BIL if he was ok with what I was going to do, waited a week, then told my ex that I had just found out ( he still doesn't know that I went)
I thought that he had a right to know, but by then it was to late, funeral had already taken place, and I knew he wouldn't go and see them, they live too far away.
I think. that you have to respect peoples wishes. X

[prendi]

thanks for all the answers.so we are not a strange family after all.sorry to cause all the arguments on here,i only wanted a few peoples views on it lol !!