How Would You Feel??

[jd_1984]

A couple plan to wed abroad as part of a 2 week holiday in the carribean with family.
The bride is very excited and is looking forward to her dream day (as many women tend to).
Now, the groom's dad has asked whether the couple mind if he renews his vows to grooms mother at some point during the 2 weeks in the resort. He wants to suprise her on a day seperate to the wedding day.
Groom is impartial but slightly on the side of "that is a really nice idea".
Bride is totally against as it is "our wedding and the guests will be talking more about the romantic gesture by grooms dad"!!

What say you lot??

Should groom politely inform dad that not a good idea? Surely that is his only way of having a harmonious wedding??

[sara3]

that was my opinion, Lofty, yes. I think it's a shame to hijack part of the proceedings when it's not supposed to be about them.

[jd_1984]

Thanks for all your views.
The main theme coming out is that the groom's father perhaps hasnt thought this through. He has seen an opportunity to latch on to the wedding fortnight as it is a chance to have everyone together in a romantic setting, rather than coming up with his own setting for the gesture. He hasnt thought of how the couple getting married will feel. The groom, with it being his parents, doesnt see the harm and appreciates the hard times they have gone through and thinks it is a lovely idea. BUT, he sees how it would make his bride feel and ultimately the wedding experience should be for them and them alone.

[friedgreentomato]

The bride is only a bride for one day - she will (hopefully) be a wife for the rest of her life.

She needs to learn to meet in the middle over some things!

[naomi24]

I think it's a lovely idea. I could understand the bride's reluctance if the suggestion was for a double ceremony - but I can't see how another celebration, say, during the second week of the holiday will detract from the wedding. I hope this girl is going to form a good relationship with her future parents-in-law.

[Smowball]

Is the groom in question yourself jd? x

[LoftyLottie]

Am I forgiven FGT :o(

[LoftyLottie]

The wedding day surely is what it is all about and perhaps a few days before and after. I agree with FGT in her latest post. I have never heard of a wedding fortnight. The bride sounds selfish.

[friedgreentomato]

LOL LL of course you are, it wasn't actually your comments I found offensive.

[LoftyLottie]

;o)

[Robinia]

I think it would be ok as long as it's at least several days, preferably a week, after the wedding.
Having said that I can't be doing with this vow renewal thing...to me it's always suggested 'who are you trying to convince?'

[atalanta]

Suggest Dad and Mum hop off to another island by themselves or with one or two folk of the same generation. 2 weeks in one caribbean resort could be pretty dull, anyway. Combine the renewal with some more extensive sightseeing.

[Canary42]

Why does he want to renew his vows - have the old ones expired ?


Selfish Dad IMO, trying to muscle in on his son's great occasion.

[lcg]

i think the bride is being ridiculous. they should be allowed to have their day in the limelight and while all the family is together, the parents could easily renew their vows without too much fuss. to demand compliance for the whole two weeks is selfish on her part....not a good start to married life, imho. i can hear her now....'but it's my day!!'.....'i want all the attention'....she sounds like a spoilt child.

[lcg]

as to how i would feel.....i wouldn't give a Sugar. i would be happy for my parents or inlaws to do it....

[LoftyLottie]

I am glad someone agrees with me icg!!

[pixie373]

And it is her day. Just once.

[LoftyLottie]

But it's not her two weeks Pixie, surely! How many brides need to be the centre of attention for two weeks. Noone has suggested doing anything on her day.

[pixie373]

Isn't it? I wasn't sure whether the wedding was the purpose of the holiday, or whether the trip was arranged and then they decided to get married during that time?

[Sparkles62]

I agree with atlanta, perhaps if they leave it until a few days/ a week after the wedding and have a quiet, renewal, on their own, which would be more romantic to me.
I think the idea of getting married and having your honeymoon with all your relatives is a bit wierd anyway, but maybe thats just me. X

[elliemay1]

I agree with the bride and I think the groom should make sure it never happens.