Social Services Help And Advice Referrals That Never Happened?

[Broken3]

I've only knew about 3 referrals one was classed as malicious but that has been removed now there is a new referral that was never referred to them, if it did happen i would have heard from them. How can this happen? Is this a breach of data protection? Thanks

[Broken3]

I'm finally on the laptop so hopefully I can explain better than being on my phone.

I have a few things I need addressing and I cannot ask (social worker 3) these as they were
passed on from (social worker 2) to her.

1. I had (social worker 1) out in the October 2013 and I had to sign an agreement to
not allow (the ex) to stay or come near our family home until a full risk
assessment has taken place, he also stated that I had 3 referrals 1.) June 2012
2.) August 2012 and the 3rd referral was October 2013. I knew about these
referrals but questioned the August one as it was a malicious call.

2.) I met with (social worker 2) in the November 2013, I never got told my referrals had
changed. I was told I was classed as vulnerable by you and I was addressed by
yourself to get a restraining order or I was not protecting my Daughter.

3.) I met with (social worker 3) in the December and she read all the referrals
back to me and I found that the August referral has been removed and another
referral has taken it's place, I have only ever had 3 encounters with social
services as (social worker 1) addressed to me. Within three months the referrals have changed without my knowledge does this make sense?

Is this why they keep changing my social workers because they are adding on referrals that I am none the wiser about..

[EDDIE51]

Looking at your profile you admit that you didn't 'open up' about all that your parter did to you. Now unless you tell the police and the Social Services EVERYTHING that he did you can not expect them to see your side of the case.
I can understand why you 'held back' but now you HAVE to tell the whole story or they will 'pin it on you'. Look at it from their side, they only have what your ex chooses to tell them and he is never going to admit the full extent of what he did to you, he will only tell them his side and that will be very biased against you. You must now tell the entire story and explain why you did not do this in the first case.

[Broken3]

I understand what ur trying to say, and the night I was interviewed he threatened suicide again so I was worried about his safety and was not thinking straight and just wanted to get home to my little girl.. Also my mam was present and it is hard opening up when she's there I was ashamed and didn't want to open up too much because of what I was brainwashed into thinking was 'normal' but still not fair to pin it on me.. They should be intimidating him not me

[bednobs]

but what does it matter if you had 2 or three referrals?

[Broken3]

If the second referral did exist he would have been stopped then is what I'm trying to say there would NOT have been a third time

[lcg]

how can they pin anything on you? at the end of the day, your ex was/is the problem and as long as you don't let him back near the house, and you have done nothing wrong, what on earth is the issue?

[Broken3]

There is no issue as I have said and they still deceive and manipulate me, I'm thinking of leaving the country I'm traumatised by it all

[Broken3]

The threats gone (him)

[lcg]

i really think you are getting your knickers twisted for nothing. at the end of the day, ss have had reports of domestic incidents and suicide attempts. i'm glad they investigate these and then make sure parents sign things/do things to remove the problem from the house where a child grows up. if you can't see they did it in your child's best interests.....then there is no hope. stop feeling sorry for yourself, look to the future instead and do right by your child in the future. problem solved.

[Broken3]

I'm thinking of my child here thank u very much.. If the second incident was instigated like the (malicious one) we wouldn't be like this.. Get off my post if u don't understand what I'm trying to express we were neglected unnoticed in 2012 that's not my fault I reported it!

[bednobs]

well what do you want the outcome to be: social services can't turn back time and change their actions

[lcg]

errr....no, this is a public website.....and your posts aren't entirely clear either. if you wrote more succinctly and used the correct language etc then i would have half a chance at understanding what you are going on about. you start by mentioning data protection breaches, so i first think that you are after some compensation; then you talk of missed opportunities to help you; and finally say they are picking on you. do you know what you are actually asking?

[China Doll]

In an attempt to answer your questions, social workers change because they leave, work changes, a case is passed to a more senior social worker or sometimes relationships break down.

I'm still desperately trying to understand your issue but you're really not very clear; my understanding so far is that there was a malicious call in August which you knew about and this was removed but in December 2013 you heard about a referral in July which you knew nothing about and this is where you are stuck. It could be an oversight or an error, you can ask about it but to be honest with you'll just be getting yourself bogged down in something silly when I'm guessing the real issue is that of the domestic violence and the emotional abuse your children/child may have been subjected to as a result of this; assuming that this has been going on longer than the referrals to social services then I would say that the July referral is a complete red herring to you and you are best placed engaging with services fully, telling them everything and working with them to safeguard yourself and your children.

[Broken3]

I have. Told them everything I can remember they think I'm on drugs.. I will pay for a drug test I touch nothing I feel victimised and even worse than being abused

[bednobs]

who cares what they think - let them!

[China Doll]

Well where did the drugs thing come from and what's it to do with the price of fish?! Your story is inconsistant and difficult to follow so it's hard to advise you. I don't believe you can take a private drug test to 'prove' you're not taking drugs. You will just have to work with social services and continue to engage and this will 'prove' your devotion to keeping yourself and your child safe.

[lcg]

there must be a reason they think that - either someone has told them or they have observed signs when visiting your home. you do not have to prove anything to them. be polite, answer their questions and get on with your life. pointless worrying will drive you round the bend and stop you from moving forward in your life. make plans for a settled future with your child and do something about them!

[Broken3]

Maybe the ex did, maybe because I look undernourished
Mind u my daughters always fed I skip meals I look frail I'm only 21 but I'm use to my routine which has been broke since end of october