What's He Playing At?

[lozzag]

I asked a question on here a couple of days ago and gpt some amazing feedback and advice which I have listened too.
But I could do wit getting a perspective on my ex boyfriend behaviour.
We both have each others house keys and everytime we have an argument and he proclaims its over he snatches his key back and goes running like a baby. He hasnt done it this time round. Or collected his stuff.
We had a hum dinger of an argument sat night and after some shoving from him where I got bruises he proclaims its over. Asked if we could work on our issues he replies he dosnt know. We have a holiday booked next week that am supposed to take my kids on too but he has told me that he isnt going now. I know I should just walk away but its never that easy. I do love him deeply but feel that everything is always one sided like the argument on Saturday night. I could just go on the holiday on my own but the reality is that I just cant afford all the activities etc on m own :( not thats sonlthey reason I want things to work out for. I do believe he is the one for me and generally we get on like a house on fire. I just dont know what to do and if this man is just playing on my emotions to get what he wants

[rsvp]

I feel sorry for you being in this situation but if you are feeling so confused and unhappy about this abusive situation, just imagine what your children are going through. Surely they don't need to be subjected to their mother getting physically and mentally abused. Domestic violence is never, never acceptable in any shape or form - there are organisations out there set up to help in these situations so contact them. This will certainly end badly but you have the power to end it now and stop this man controlling your life.

[rsvp]

sorry, missed off the end of the last sentence.........to stop this man controlling your life which is what he's playing at imo.

[Brinjal]

This up down on off situation can't be good for your children. Maybe it is time to take a step back and see where things end up. I would go on the holiday by myself even if you can't afford to do all the extras you could still make it a nice time. He sounds very controlling and childish.

[ummmm]

It's games. Don't play along.

[chanel5]

The bottom line is, he has started pushing you around physically, to the extent where you have ended up with bruises. Walk away now, and stay away. This is just the beginning. If you allow yourself to be abused like this, it can only go in one direction. The abuse will increase, your willpower and self-esteem will decrease and you will be trapped. More importantly, so will your children. If you care anything for them, put your own feelings to one side and do what is best for them, by getting rid of this man.