I'm Gonna Be A Dad! :s

[wickedgrin]

Just stumbled across this site while searching on google and thought it looked great.

Not really a proper question as such but if anyone has any advice for me that would be great.

So I've been with my girlfriend about 3 months now and today she told me she is pregnant and its mine! ****!

I'm 33 (and she is 26) so I know that everyone probably thinks I should be totally ready for this, but I'm not.

I'm not even sure that I want to be with her you know, everything is so new and now i feel trapped. and before anyone makes any comments yes we did use protection, got no clue how this happened.

Not expecting any answers really, just venting

[elliemay1]

The baby is the most important person in this scenario. The fact that Wg is not sure of the relationship suggests that they shouldn't live together at the moment.

[Gladiatrix]

'what's a chap to do if he uses condoms and spermicides, she tells him she's on the pill but she still gets pregnant?
He can't march her to the doctor's for the morning after pill, or demand she has an abortion.
He can't demand that she keep the baby because he is desperate to be a dad.
In this situation the woman is the only decision maker and the man is supposed to support her whichever way she decides.'

I agree, I don't exactly think that it is fair. If he doesn't want the baby and she does then he has no say. (And I'm a woman saying this)

[pixie373]

Well, the man has made his choice by sleeping with her. Luckily or unluckily for him, that is the only part he actually plays, so that makes sense, hc.
I do wonder what contraception was used (or who) as she seems to be wanting to move in together now?

[anneasquith]

well, here's the thing, in your position , for some reason you '' find '' this site and tell us all about your issues, and expect advice/sympathy/support. really ?

[Brenden]

Have a DNA as soon as the baby is born, whatever you decide to do make sure you support the child (if it is yours) throughout its life.

[elliemay1]

Are some of you suggesting that this is a wind up??

[sherrardk]

I'm almost getting broody at the thought if a new owlet.

[wickedgrin]

Not totally sure what is happening here, things seem to be getting a tad confrontational. That was completely not my intention and I'm sorry if I have offended anybody.

[Zacs-Master]

No problem. ;-)

[pixie373]

You haven't wg. Have you ever used this site before under a different name?

[wickedgrin]

'Have you ever used this site before under a different name?'

No, I have not been here before today. I have found some of peoples comments very helpful.

Feeling rather drained after a bit of a stressful day so think I'll clock off now

[anneasquith]

sleep well.

[pixie373]

Just asking. Good night.

[murraymints]

I would not rush into living together...you can still be a dad and support your girlfriend without living together..a tad too much too soon..you have enough to deal with as it is !

[Robbie81]

You don't say what protection you used!

Did you use a condom? Did it split?

Or was she on the pill? She might have not taken it and thats why she got pregnant.

[elliemay1]

Let us know what you decide.

[wickedgrin]

Feeling so much better about everything this morning, sometimes sleeping on it is the best thing to do.

I think I'm going to tell her that our relationship is too new for us to move in together, but I will try to reassure her that doesn't mean I won't be there for her and the baby.

I may ask her to test to see if it is mine, but dont think I'll mention it yet, anyway I don't think you can do that til its born?

[murraymints]

Good wicked....no you'll have to wait till baby is here to test...Good luck ...

[anneasquith]

how many weeks pregnant is you're girlfriend ?