My Husband Cheated Before We Got Married?

[Minelle7]

I found out recently my husband cheated on me 5 years ago. we have been married for 3 years. I found out by snooping in his emails he never deleted. He had sex with her 3 times. I know this was a long time ago but im just finding out. Im so confused and hurt. I dont know how to feel about this. should I ask him about it or just let it go?

[Retrochic]

This poster is probably a sociology/psychology student trying to get some different perspectives on scenarios for her assignment(s) Why don't posters like this just be up front about it then they may get some constructive opinions instead of the 'hair pulling' comments this sort of post often attracts.

[woofgang]

indeed Retro, and also the inevitable suspension....Mind you anyone silly enough to use the same user name for both scenarios on the same website is surely not going to get far at Uni?

[Old_Geezer]

Student or not (and I haven't read the answer posts but I can see those immediately above) this was 2 years before your made vows. Whatever the situation at the time, it is best to realise it is now in the past. If you can't stop letting it bug you then sure, go ahead and risk your marriage, or at least create a bad feeling period, but ideally just let it go. It is questionable saying things that occurred before commitment counts as "cheating". Meanwhile do analyse why you feel the need to snoop in another's e-mails. Either you have an issue, or there is more to this than some old fling that you didn't mention in the OP.

[Old_Geezer]

Ah lots of answers removed I see.
Some folk been having a fun time here ?

[woofgang]

OG, the OP posted as a married woman with a cheating husband and also as a 17YO with a cheating bi boyfriend. "She" has now been suspended

[ginamina]

Ouch I couldn't forget this without talking about it. But would probably not trust him ever again anyway