Am I Rude?

[boona]

Today I went out for a meal with my mum and sister and my sister invited a friend from church, we were sat next to each other and got on well, we chatted together for pretty much all the meal about all sorts, when we were getting to the end of meal I noticed my sister had a face down to the ground and was being moody, when I got home my mum said it was because I chatted to her friend all through the meal and didn't really talk to her so much, personally it is not something that would have bothered me if it was the other way round, mum said I was rude. What do you think?

[anneasquith]

mum said you were rude. I think you were a bit,

[ummmm]

It's only rude if you ignore people if they try to join in.

[woofgang]

You as a person may not be rude, but from what you have said, on this occasion, your behaviour may have lacked somewhat in politeness. It is good manners when dining in a group to ensure that all the members of the group are involved in the conversation if they wish to be....including moody sisters. I can see why she felt hurt incidentally....it can be very painful to bring a friend to a gathering and find that the friend is liked and is more interesting than you are and if the friend appears to abandon you and find other family members more interesting then that doesn't help either...It was probably not entirely your fault, the friend should have been taking trouble to keep your your sister involved in the conversation too.

[Gavmacp]

I have always been amazed when I hear someone telling someone else off for their bad manners. As the people that do this should really have a look at themselves first.

[andy-hughes]

I know exactly how you feel boona.

When I meet someone new that I get on with, I tend to forget other people, and concentrate on my new friend, and enjoy my conversation.

This is not done in any way intentionally, and with the benefit of hindsight, I can see that it may appear rude, however unintentional.

So I see how it happened, and I see how your family feel, but they know and love you, so I am sure it will all blow over because they know you didn't mean to cause any upset.

I'd just make your apologies, and move on, and I am sure they will move on with you.

[Gavmacp]

It could of been considered rude to bring a friend to family meal.

[joko]

there are 2 types of people - some who,when something isnt going as expected, get in a huff and react like a brat, and other who change things to make it as expected - you sister could have joined in, changed the subject, interjected etc, but she didnt, she just felt affronted because it wasnt going her way

i kind of understand her feeling left out, maybe you two did just ignore them, but still, acting up about it doesnt help. some people feel they shouldnt have to do anything about it, you should have 'wanted' to speak to her most ...