Neighbours

[langara]

My friends neighbours are driving her mad. She is a spinster in her 60's, with numerous health problems, her new neighbours have 3 small children who she has tried to get on with, but their parents seem to delight in upsetting her. She has done everything they have asked of her, including replacing fences, having scaffolding on her land so that they can paint house walls. Her main problem is the constant kicking of a football against the new fence, that she could ill afford to replace. A lot of her plants are getting broken with the ball keep coming into her garden, when she asked for some consideration, the mother said she was a muppet, when the little boy asked what a muppet was his mom said an old person who had nothing better to do than complain. I have no idea how to help her and most days she has tears when telling me the next episode. She is very frail and has crohns disease, so all the agro is not helping. Any suggestions would be a help. Thanks

[ummmm]

Jenny...I lived with my NAN.

My nan wouldn't put up with any disrespect, nor would my mother. I think respect is taught before a child even knows what it means.

[jennyjoan]

Ummmm - I deliberately changed Nan to Mum as I never had a nan - that was that reason -

[pastafreak]

I'm not sure age has a lot to do with it. I was a grump when it came to noise in my 30's...;-)

[ummmm]

Ahhh okay, JJ. My mum is lovely too.... :-)

[jennyjoan]

swell for you Ummmmm that you have both - wish I had even one my precious mum would do me.

[Sammy48]

My kids were never allowed to kick balls at fences. Says a lot about the parents if you would think this acceptable behaviour. Respect is taught from a young age.

[Rtaxron]

Buy a GOAL NET for them!

Never heard of such nonsense, the mother of the brats called her a muppet.

Why dont we go all the way and buy them football shirts, shorts & boots, Oh, and they must be Nike, or a good brand.

[Sammy48]

I was thinking exactly that ^^^^

[Sqad]

Muppets! Wrinklies!..........it would seem that in the UK, there is scant respect for "old people" something that is not that evident in other European countries, where respect is normal.

This is totally unacceptable behavior by the neighbour and I would certainly make a complaint to the police.

[Sammy48]

It seems like respect for older people is not just missing in the UK sqad, it rears its head on here aswell lol lol.

[Sqad]

Sammy...LOL....who cares?

[Sammy48]

Not me.

[ummmm]

I have also noticed that in many of the European countries many live in apartments with local playgrounds. In the UK they live in houses with not that many playgrounds.

Parents have chores to do. It's not feasible to walk 30 minutes to the park, have play time, walk back and get dads dinner on the table when he gets home from work!

[Mamyalynne]

It is easy to see where the disrespect lies with langara's friend's neighbour - the adults.

[Sammy48]

Let Dad get his own dinner, it's not the 1950s.

[Ric.ror]

Hang on a minute - whilst I have every sympathy with her plight and I do think the mother has behaved like a *** - the children are playing in their own garden - and - as Langara has stated - they are only small children. You can't expect them to go to the park on their own if they are really small.

[Sqad]

Walk for 30 mins to the nearest park?....Poor darlings, can't they do that without mum.?

[bednobs]

if one parent works and the other dioesn't, in our household at least, the worker would be mightily hacked off if they had to come home from a day's work and then make dinner!

[Mamyalynne]

Aye let em play on a dual carriageway - that'll end it or mend it.

[Sqad]

Thank you Mamy.....helpful post.