Eating Out/ Rudeness

[trixie_dar]

While eating out at a restaurant with a friend!! I ordered a starter. She lost the rag and said I was being extremely rude in eating a starter when she was not having one. Was I being rude. She left the table for 15 minutes went sat in the loo until I was finished.


If she had arrived at my home unexpectedly, it would have been rude to eat in front of her, unless I offered to share my meal.

Do I apologise?

Thanks to any replies.

[naomi24]

No you weren't being rude - she was - and you've nothing to apologise for. Choose different company next time.

[Tilly2]

She is no friend. What odd behaviour.

[Retrochic]

I would say that her behaviour was very rude. No do't appologise, I would keep this friend at arms length she seems a bit unhinged.

[trixie_dar]

Thanks folks. Makes me feel better.

[ladyalex]

You were not rude at all.
If you go to a restaurant, you order whatever you want, she orders whatever she wants.
If you have a starter and a main and she orders a main and a sweet then she waits as you eat your starter and you wait as she eats her sweet.
Nobody sulks in the loo .
Very childish behaviour.
If anyone is owed an apology it is you.

[DaisyNonna]

Of course you were not rude.
The other person was.
No need for you to apologise.

[Sqad]

Mmmm! doesn't sound like the whole story to me.

[Peter Pedant]

stringfellow used to eat with his dog in his own restaurant
and when some Americans complained to the owner ( him )
he said as far as he was concerned the dog was politer than many Americans

I actually WOULD apologise - I have a sincerity problem in circumstances like these but I think I could do it - and put it down to experience and make sure when next invited your dinner diary is permanently full

[Peter Pedant]

//Mmmm! doesn't sound like the whole story to me.//

well yes well no - I had a lunch partner who refused a starter and I said well you are just going to have to watch me eat one ....

[pastafreak]

Your friend is both rude and extremely immature. What else does one go to a restaurant for but to have a nice meal in good company?

[Sqad]

PP....but did he then sit on the toilet for 15mins? ^^

[Peter Pedant]

No Sqad I havent had anyone retreat to the toilet whilst I ate ...

I think I would make sure they had washed their hands if they did that ......

[Maydup]

.........and left you to eat alone? The height of rudeness on her part, not yours.

[Peter Pedant]

yeah half way thro your starter and knock on the ladies' door and yell

wasser matter - you got guts ache or something >

[Retrochic]

To be honest if that happened to me I would have paid for my starter and left the restaurant. What did you say to her when she came back?

[DTCwordfan]

Maybe she had the squidges......!

[murraymints]

I would have paid for starter and left without a word...silly woman..off the Christmas card list for sure

[cashier]

No you weren't rude and no you shouldn't apologise you did nothing wrong.

[Netty7]

How very dare she! She sounds like a spoil child, she should be apologising to you. I went out with work one night, about 12 of us, and I was absolutely starving, the restaurant was so slow and when the food finally came 2 people had ordered starters so we all had to then wait for them to finish before we got our food which again was really slow coming. I could have eaten my cutlery by then!