Bullying

[boona]

Hi, my 7yr old has been complaining that her school friend has been nipping her. We tried a few things.. first of all I told me daughter to ask her to stop, this didn't change anything. Then I told my daughter to nip her back twice as hard and she might think twice about doing it.. not the best advise I know plus my daughter was too scared to nip her back anyway. Then I spoke to the child mother who said she would speak to her... a wk later the nipping still continued so i spoke the teacher and I told my daughter to keep her distance from her until it stops. I got a msg from the child mother who said she was very upset that I told my daughter not to play with her and that was the wrong thing to do. I am shocked by this. Do you think this was wrong?

[bednobs]

what is nipping?

[boona]

Pinching her hard for no reason

[sapelesam]

I think everything you did was spot on Boona. Message the childs mother and tell her to stop her child nipping and then you will tell your daughter to resume relations.

[Mamyalynne]

Pinching skin between fingertips.

[bhg481]

Nipping is what some people call pinching, bednobs.

Boona - I think you took exactly the right action. The child's mother needs to explain to her that unacceptable behaviour will cause her to lose friends.

[Mamyalynne]

I too think you've done right, tell the other Mum (if you think it's needed ) your first priority is your child.

[boona]

The mother has made me doubt myself, she actually put a Facebook status up saying she was owed an apology, it may not have been aimed at me but I think it probably was.

[Mamyalynne]

I'd ignore that type of cry for attention, sounds like she's smarting as she's lost control of things.

[bednobs]

do be aware that 7 year olds aen't always that truthful

[pixie374]

I think you have done exactly the right thing. I'm not sure what else the mother expected you to do.

[sapelesam]

Why do parents try to absolve themselves from responsibility for their childs behaviour. In my childhood, parents always believed the other party, whether it was a teacher,neighbour or other parent. May have been that I was a bit of a toerag.

[boona]

Thank you, the nipping stopped a day later. I think the teacher spoke to the child and normal play has resumed. I have just been doubting myself and thinking I didn't handle it very well. No mother would tell her child to continue playing with a child she was scared of because she was hurting her surely.

[bhg481]

It speaks volumes when you SPOKE to the child's mother but she TEXTED you with her response and then resorted to Facebook.

[sapelesam]

Some people have lost the ability to have a sensible discussion face to face. The digital age is so wonderful.

[bhg481]

saplesam //The digital age is so wonderful// but so easily misunderstood - just look at some of the threads on AB.

[albaqwerty]

I think you handled it well Boona.

Hope the nipping stays stopped.
I detest hearing of youngsters being bullied.

[bhg481]

I love to say I hope it's been nipped in the bud but I'd only get groaned at.