Do I Speak To Him About Plans Tomorrow?

[abbeyleigh]

I am meant to be going out with this guy tomorrow we've spoken today but not said what happening. Do I message him or wait till he brings up plans?

[lankeela]

Depends whether you will be wearing the leopard print top from new look.

[cashier]

Wait, if you keep bugging him he will ditch you.

[abbeyleigh]

Not relevant to what I'm wearing it's if I should chase or leave him to make plans

[Hazlinny]

Wait!

[lankeela]

Chase him! Men like to be wooed so tell him how much you want him. Maybe even suggest a Christmas wedding would be nice. Sure he will think you are worth it.

[pastafreak]

Leave him to make the move, otherwise you may come across as anxious. Things can just be spontaneous.

[jourdain2]

Depends if you have things you want to do. Personally I like to know what is happening so I can organise my life. I don't know how well you know him.
e.g. Tomorrow I am looking after a friend's grandchild for a couple of hours mid-day, so I would message and say something on the lines of 'What have you in mind for tomorrow, because I'm tied up between 12 and 2.'
If you are talking about tomorrow evening, then much the same applies.-, e.g 'I'm busy until 7 etc..... so what have you in mind?'
Best I can do. Keep it light, but be grounded.

[abbeyleigh]

He said Thursday between 2 and 3 last week and met online last week.

[jourdain2]

Well then, ensure you meet somewhere very public! I think a message to the effect that you need to know where, because it may be tricky for you to make it as you have other commitments, would be appropriate. If he's genuine he'll be fine about it. If not, no loss.

[tiggerblue10]

It's getting late so you need to know if the plan to meet is still going ahead. Any reason why you didn't discuss it earlier?

[abbeyleigh]

He didn't bring up today said yesterday about meeting in the centre

[jourdain2]

He seems to be leaving you to take the initiative. This could cut either way. I now think you ought to wait and let him tell you where. Either way - he's not that keen or he wouldn't have left you dangling like this.

[tiggerblue10]

Maybe contact him in the morning and ask if he's still up for meeting. Whatever you do, meet in a public area and make sure you keep an eye on any drinks or food you get.

[calmck]

Is this the first time you are meeting him?
Send him a text saying you can be at the centre at 2.15.
Don't be surprised if he doesn't come.
Arrange a code text with a friend in case things go wrong.
Make sure you have " what three words" on your phone.
Be prepared for being let down
Hope all goes well
Stay safe

[Canary42]

When he brings up the plans, apologise and tell him he's too late and that you've made other plans as you hadn't heard from him.

[abbeyleigh]

It would be first time meeting

[jourdain2]

As it's so late now, I think Canary's advice is worth following.
Then say that if he's still like to meet you could perhaps manage an hour next Wednesday lunchtime or whenever.

[calmck]

Be careful. Stay safe

[abbeyleigh]

Its ok he messaged still happy to meet I just feel nervous as hell as never met up with someone like this before

[LadyCG]

^^Phew