Do You Think It’s Okay For Older Guy’s 35+ To Be Dating Legal Teenagers 18/19 ?

[Salty80]

Or it’s not good idea?

[Xeronema]

This is a difficult question to answer, it's not a straight forward yes or no.

There have been cases where a 16-year-old girl and a 60+ year old have been in a relationship, I think it was on Jeremy Kyle.

I'd accept it if both people were happy.

[barry1010]

Depends on the individuals, some young people can be very mature whilst some older people can have a younger attitude and outlook.
As long as there is no manipulation I think it's fine

[Redhelen72]

I always think ick! with such a gap and wonder what is wrong that a grown adult has to have relations with someone so young.

[Xeronema]

Yeah, and from the young adult's perspective, why is she with someone experienced (or more so than them)? Surely they want to work out life with someone closer to their own age.

It's one of those situations where there are no simple yes or no answers, each case is completely different.

[nicebloke1]

Like you say, its legal. But it don't normally last very long.

[gness]

You can't really say one size fits all. I was a few years out of my teens. Just a few, not much older than 19. Met MrG. He was 17 years older than me.
We had a great marriage. Happy and fun for 30+ years. Could have been much longer had the NHS not killed him.

[Xeronema]

Hey gness, I don't think I've said hello since coming back. Sorry to her about your husband. You're right, one size doesn't fit all.

[JDavis]

Think it's fine that way round. When it's the woman that's older, it's
disgusting!

[Redhelen72]

Gness without outright asking your age (because a lady never discusses their age) I believe this would have been in a time where women were treated differently - tis a tough one as these days it is very awkward but my own mother dated men a lot older than her when she was 15 - but it was only dating

[gness]

Hi, Xeronema. Nice to see you. I don't look in as much as I once did.
Thank you for your sympathy. He was a lovely man.

I did, a few years after his death, meet through AB a biker. Took him for a pint and we ended up marrying in Ireland a couple of years ago.

Hope you're well and happy. x

[rowanwitch]

It depends on the people concerned. Unfortunately the age gap almost always creates a power imbalance within the relationship.This may create issues . However further down the road the age gap won't seem so extreme. If she is already a strong personality,able to assert herself, it might work out. It's more an issue of the older party has co.mplicated motives, e.g. Wanting a more malleable partner, or lacks emotional maturity. Relationships always carry a risk, you won't know if it was worth the risk until you look back on it.

[Sqad]

"I always think ick! with such a gap and wonder what is wrong that a grown adult has to have relations with someone so young"


Lythe body, pert breasts, sense of excitement, sexy underwear......sex on tap.
Ridiculous, give me a saggy old boring wench, anytime, preferably AB.

[gness]

I can't think that I was treated any differently, Helen. How? I was independent. Ran my own little business. We were equal as a couple. I can't think of any way in which it was different from my marriage to Dave....except he is very much taller so clipping ears is more difficult. :-)

Now you say that JDavis, but why? We've made great friends since moving here but my closest is 18 years older than her husband..not that you'd think to look at her. They are a fantastic couple. Great fun to socialise with and great together. The love, banter and humour between them is a joy. Yet you think they should have married people with the age gap the other way round or the same age. Would that have made for happier marriages for them both?

[rowanwitch]

I have done the age gap in both directions.... Always up for an adventure!!!

[fitdarren]

Any wench in particular Sqad?

[Sqad]

fitdarren.....LOL.
Well, I have met only one ABer and she is a cracker, in looks, attitude and intelligence. We still keep in contact.
One or two are quite interesting........

[fitdarren]

oke doke x

[Xeronema]

I am happy gness, the happiest I think I've ever been. Life is still a massive struggle, and we're barely keeping our heads above water. Notice how I said, 'we're' - it's great being in a relationship where my OH actually understands me and my weirdness and physical/mental health issues.

For so long I felt lost and not understood. It certainly wasn't a great combination for me being on AB during that time. It wasn't all bad though :D x

[Canary42]

It's fine, provided the guy is quite happy for the gal to find herself a toyboy when she's 35+ herself.

[gness]

So glad to read that, Xeronema. And as for being in a happy relationship! Great news. Wishing you both every happiness and have a wonderful Christmas together. x