Is This Guy Harrasing Me?

[abbeylee90]

I appreciate he being kind giving me lifts and going for lunch but he does my head in grabbing me to do it all the time as I'm leaving where I know him from I got things I need to do myself feel like he obsessed with me

[Floko]

Or maybe .......oi vey!

[ToraToraTora]

PP shows once again that English isn't his first language. Foo!

[naomi24]

He can't help himself, TTT.

[Ringlet]

If you are accepting lifts and going to lunch with him, but you really don't want to, then you are giving him the wrong signals.
Because you accept his friendliness, the poor man thinks he is your friend.
Do not betray his friendliness by accusing him of harassment.
It is YOUR behaviour that is at fault here.
You need to set the boundaries - make clear what you are and are not willing to accept in terms of friendliness.
I feel sorry for that guy.

[abbeylee90]

I understand feeling for him I wouldn't like to be no husband or children at his age. I'm busy mostly this weekend know if I had a partner I'd be seeing him less.

[Floko]

Abbey, I am now getting the impression that, perhaps, this gentleman is thinking of you as the daughter he never had and likes to treat you for lunch etc.
It's good to hear you are busy rhis weekend.

[abbeylee90]

That what I thought and its a good thing. Yeah fundraising and events with the dogs home. I was just upset that I didn't get my friends txt to meet up until I was already out with him.

[abbeylee90]

Someone who known him for 20 years said he a man's man so obviously why he didn't settle down

[scorpiojo]

Ask him.

[abbeylee90]

He said no but they do deny

[barry1010]

You think he is gay and you asked him?
If I've got that right you have indicated that you are interested in having a relationship with him

[Floko]

Surely a "man's man" is the hunting,fishing,rugby type ?

[barry1010]

It used to be a euphemism for a man who wasn't in to the ladies

[Floko]

Depends what age the person who has known him is?
Confused from Lancashire :)

[abbeylee90]

I don't think he is as mentioned an ex girlfriend. No he like 60

[barry1010]

Just because he is 60 it doesn’t mean that he may not be hoping for a relationship with you. He may not be but you should make sure he knows you are not interested.

Have you sorted your wages out?

[abbeylee90]

No I didn't say he was just don't want to get to involved with him

No I'm not in work till Tuesday

[Moorea7]

Abbeylee/ If you don't want to get involved with this older man, you have to make it perfectly clear that the friendship can only be platonic - maybe he mistakes your friendliness for something more. However, if someone has described him as a "man's man" then he probably would prefer to be down at the pub with the lads, watching sport, etc.
Don't be misled, that type like women too!

[joko]

why dont you ask him if he has a girlfriend & talk about how he should be getting out more to meet women his own age - talk as if the very idea of you & him together is not an option, even mention how youd like to meet someone your own age too, its letting him know the situation without any awkwardness or pressure.
Make sure you mention wanting guys your own age tho, as he might think you bringing up girlfriends for him is you fishing for details, & so he might think thats his cue to take his shot with you.