Why Might My Friends Have Not Replied?

[abbeylee90]

I messaged a group to ask if they wanted to do anything for new year on boxing day but no reply 

[naomi24]

Maybe they're already booked.

[abbeylee90]

They could say if that but doubt it

[naomi24]

Well they haven't responded so just assume they're not available and go for something else.  

[Redhelen72]

Are these the same group of friends that you have refused to meet up with in the past?

Or the one of the friends that you didn't want to go and get ready with or one of the friends that you said just used you for money?

[Redhelen72]

I would also imagine that if they are around your age (31) that they probably have family commitments

[abbeylee90]

Redhelen No

[newmodarmy]

Maybe they are trying to save money as they too are short of money

[Neveracrossword]

Maybe they're busy, maybe they were waiting to see if something better came up, maybe they forgot to reply. Are they normally reliable friends? If so, a reminder might be enough. If they're always slow to get back to you, give up on them for now.

 

 

[barry1010]

Try phoning them, it's the only way to find out

[Pooka1950]

Text or WhatsApp? With WhatsApp at least you can see if they have read the message. 

[THECORBYLOON]

The read-receipt can be turnt off on WhatsApp meaning it won't show if a message has been read.

[Prudie]

I know we're not allowed to say anything barbed (even though it's sensible and we'd ask any other poster) to you but how are we suppoased to know when you don't tell:

Are these friends in your age group and all single?

Do none of them have family to see?

How often do you normlly go out wiith them?

Do they communcate with you regularly like proper friends do?

Otherwsie how are those who are so keen to help you supposed to?

[abbeylee90]

It's a group and not everyone has seen it. One is single and one is pregnant. Normally they are good at replying and are good friends 

[Redhelen72]

Leaving it less than a week before to organise a night out on such a busy night is poor planning imo.

they probably all have plans already.

[abbeylee90]

Always last min with new year but I'm not fussed

[Canary42]

However accommodating your friends usually are, that's very very short notice at this busy time of year. I expect most of them have missed it, or read it too late.  

Take the optimistic outlook and assume I am correct, and good luck Abbey with continuing friendship with these folk.

[abbeylee90]

Who says I'm loosing friendship with them 

[newmodarmy]

"  Who says I'm loosing (sic) friendship with them"

 

Nobody is saying that, as far as I can see

[abbeylee90]

By saying good luck with continuing with friendship