What Do I Tell The Man From The Dog's Home?

[abbeylee90]

The man I know from dogs home anyway he  doesn't come down anymore as he won't wear a hi vi's of theirs, he hasn't been for a month and this morning hemessaged me  saying dog walking off until Monday due to kennel cough and I said he don't go down there no more and said he been down twice this week but not to walk dogs. I just brought up in conversation I drove round by where we've been yesterday. He messaged back and said ''We been loads of places, before you became mrs the answers NO, now what's the question". Truth is I'm focusing on new things in life like hoping to find a man so he would have to get use to it anyway as can't see me hanging out with him if that was to happen.

[scorpiojo]

What Prudie said ^^^

[abbeylee90]

I brought it up when he had messaged about dogs having kennel cough same time and no on my lesson

[abbeylee90]

Mrs the answers NO is what he said not what I said and I'm not using him now if I haven't been out with him over 4 weeks or more 

[Moorea7]

Have you anything planned for this weekend, Abbey, as no dog walking?  How are you getting on at the laundry?

[jourdain2]

Abby, please read and think about this. To 'find a man' is  NOT the most important thing in life.  Find yourself and your life first - THAT is what is important. 

When you've done that (and it can be hard) you will be amazed at what can happen - and your life with any man who appreciates youwill be a good one. If there is no-one, then OK there's no-one - but you will have yourself.  That is very important.  

Please read  this carefully at least 3 times.

[abbeylee90]

No and not for me really I've been offered a job in a school but not sure if I'm taking it

[abbeylee90]

Prudie it what I'm getting told by others about him and like I've put on here I been saying no so I can't be using him.

[davebro3]

The burning question I have - Why won't he wear a Dog's Trust hi-viz jacket? We should be told.

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, I thought you were seriously trying to get yourself somewhere, jobwise? Taking a part-time job, of only 20 hours a week, seems a daft idea! 

[Redhelen72]

You have been telling us for months that this poor man is being slated by other, but you continued to take gifts from him and lifts and lunch dates. 
I said it before and I will say it again!

you used him for you own means!

stop being mean to him, tell him you are not  interested in a friendship with him and there is no future with you and stop texting and chatting with him!

you are not a child 

[scorpiojo]

You used him for long enough, Abbey.

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, why don't you move on from the 'using him' discussion? You say you're 'focusing on new things in life' - what are you actually doing?  (I know you're very keen to find a man, but that's not actually 'doing' anything!). Taking another lowly-paid part-time job won't get you out of the 'my life is rotten, my life is going nowhere' stuff that preoccupies you at times.

[MargoTester]

Do I understand correctly Abbey - you are no longer working at the laundry?

[newmodarmy]

She is.... but doesn't like it.  At least the cleaning job would be a few more hours, but Abbey didn't too well in the last cleaning role so moving would be a risk. Anyway there's a separate thread on the cleaning job. 

[newmodarmy]

I can see why you wondered that though...abbey's sentence at 7:12 was rather jumbled with one 'no' referring to visiting dogs home and the 'not for me really ' being about her job. I think. Punctuation and separate full sentences, plus a brief check before posting, would help.

[abbeylee90]

He txt me first yesterday saying dogs can't go out till Monday I said he hasn't been down for a month so I don't see him for him to ask if I want a lift

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey. it's not that difficult.If the man messages you with a bit of news about the dogs home, all you have to do is say 'Thanks for letting me know' and get on with the rest of your day, life. This stuff  about you not going to 'hang out' with the man once you have 'found a man' is really just ... nonsense. 

[Canary42]

Davebro3, as I understand it, the reason he wouldn't wear the hi-viz jackets was because they advertised the dog-walkers' unit.

[abbeylee90]

He thinks if staff don't he shouldn't have to. I been told he likes blondes my mum told to ve careful so sure you wouldn't he happy if you're girlfriend was hanging out with him all the time.

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, you seem to still find this man - his taste in women, little remarks he makes to you - fascinating in some ways. Can't you just let it go? You can't be spending a lot of time 'focussing on new things in life', if you're having conversations with him and then asking us questions (the same old questions) all over again!