What Do I Tell The Man From The Dog's Home?

[abbeylee90]

The man I know from dogs home anyway he  doesn't come down anymore as he won't wear a hi vi's of theirs, he hasn't been for a month and this morning hemessaged me  saying dog walking off until Monday due to kennel cough and I said he don't go down there no more and said he been down twice this week but not to walk dogs. I just brought up in conversation I drove round by where we've been yesterday. He messaged back and said ''We been loads of places, before you became mrs the answers NO, now what's the question". Truth is I'm focusing on new things in life like hoping to find a man so he would have to get use to it anyway as can't see me hanging out with him if that was to happen.

[Hazlinny]

Hi Abbey/  You're looking for a man in your life  .. you're not going to find him sitting most of the day posting to Answerbank - you're in your early 30s - get out and enjoy yourself and you might just find him. Move on from thoughts of the Kennel man x

[jourdain2]

Abbey did you do as I asked and read my post at 21.54 on Friday? You need to find yourself - not a man.

[abbeylee90]

Slightly which question was it on?

[ladybirder]

Here it is, I've copied Jourdain's post for you.

// Abby, please read and think about this. To 'find a man' is  NOT the most important thing in life.  Find yourself and your life first - THAT is what is important. 

When you've done that (and it can be hard) you will be amazed at what can happen - and your life with any man who appreciates youwill be a good one. If there is no-one, then OK there's no-one - but you will have yourself.  That is very important.  

Read this carefully at least 3 times.\\

 

[abbeylee90]

I remember now thank you

[jourdain2]

I meant it Abbey.  You are the important one in sorting out your life.  Many of us have  spent far too much time trying to be something for others.  We grew-up in a different world.

Now you need to make your own life.  That comes first.  If a chap comes along in the course of it - great!  If not, once you are secure you can broaden your circle of activities.  You certainly won't meet Mr. Right by messing about on social media.

Do you like singing? If so, join a community choir - so many things you could do instead.   Bur first it is a proper job.

[abbeylee90]

Singing 😂 dog walking is my hobby and met new friends. Definitely.

[davebro3]

have you considered a job with the Dog's Trust?

[ynnafymmi]

You certainly seem to live a diffuse life Abbey.You have problems with your parents,you have problems with your boyfriends,and now you are having problems with your dog-walker?....Anyway,have a nice day.

[abbeylee90]

What boyfriend and problems with parents?

[Redhelen72]

I think ynmmi is talking about how you have posted several times about how you mislead your mother into what job you are doing and what car lessons you sre having.

the boyfriend aspect I would imagine is the number of posts with regards to dating.

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, for months you lied, didn't tell your parents certain things - your hours being cut because you couldn't cope with one job, you taking the B and M job 'for extra money', all the stuff about the old man inviting you out, along, with one pal, with half a dozen of his pals...

[abbeylee90]

Yes well they know now about lessons 

[Redhelen72]

But that is only a very tiny part of what they should know.

[Neveracrossword]

Thanks, Abbey. I forgot to say that I think the 'boyfriend problems' were because you were ... creating problems in advance! You planned to have nothing more to do with the old guy once you'd 'found a man'. You also wondered if a boyfriend  would be put off if a woman worked in a mainly male environment. The boyfriend and the warehouse job were both just possibilities then!

[abbeylee90]

That all covered now about the warehouse that having a boyfriend won't matter then and about the man how would you feel if your partner hung out with the opposite sex that often even when my mum has said be careful with that man 

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, thanks - I think you are rushing your replies again, giving up on punctuation (or even taking a breath!) because you want to get everything down at once.

Yes, I think your thinking on some things is a lot clearer now - some of the advice must have got through!

[abbeylee90]

I checked before posting my reply.

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, that made me laugh! Your reply was one big long paragraph, it wasn't the easiest to read. (It doesn't matter - much - but it can be tricky to follow what you're saying, typing.)

[newmodarmy]

abbey, you moight have checked it before you submitted , but this bit is garbled / confusing to me : "  then and about the man how would you feel if your partner hung out with the opposite sex that often even when my mum has said be careful with that man "

If you mean how would your future partner feel, then what's the issue as you are not hanging around with the old man now. (Or are you still tempted to use him/lead him on?)